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How I Focus On My Mental Health

Fitness and Health · Life · June 12, 2020

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I have mentioned before that I have struggled with depression and anxiety throughout my life. I have no problem saying that I take a daily anti-depressant and anxiety medication. I think talking about mental health is something we should do a lot more and there needs to be no stigma around it. I have had people ask before how I focus on my mental health especially with 2 very young children, working from home, etc. I want to share a few of the things I do. Please note that obviously I am not a professional — these are just things that work for me.

How I Focus On My Mental Health

I take time for myself: I am very lucky that I married a man that is supportive of me being my own person. He wants me to do things for myself and never complains or makes me feel bad if I need to take time for myself. Even if this means just going in our bedroom for a few minutes so I can have a few minutes alone. Or maybe it means meeting up with friends for HH. Whatever it is I do it. It resets me and fills me up.

I do things that make me happy: For me, this is working out, going for walks, reading, doing a face mask, getting a manicure. Things like that. I love being able to do the things that make me happy and I truly think doing that makes me a better wife, and mom. I know that when I exercise it really makes a HUGE difference in my mental health. When I do things to take care of myself it makes a HUGE difference in my mental health. When I do things that make ME happy it makes a HUGE difference in my mental health. I’m fairly sure that’s the same with everyone.

I ask for help: I ask my husband for help when I need it. I ask my therapist for help when I need it. I ask for help. I know I can’t do it all. I know that some days are harder than others and there is no shame in asking for help.

I better myself: I read a lot about mental health, I read a lot for fun. I take note when I am short with my husband or my kids. When I lose my cool. I try to do things that make me an all-around better person. I am not perfect by any means, but I try to be better.

I think taking care of our mental health is one of the best things we can do for ourselves. So these are the things I try to focus on since they are things I can control.

What are your thoughts on mental health?


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  • 10 thoughts on “How I Focus On My Mental Health

    1. chad

      I have been neglecting myself lately because of life and my work load, i know I should not! I need to focus a lot more on my mental health.

    2. Fatima Torres

      Always focus on what makes you happy. I was just chatting with a friend to let her know why having time for herself is so important. It helps you manage other aspects of your life and relationships.

    3. Flossie McCowald

      The irony of this – I just published a post along these EXACT SAME LINES recently. Those of us who are parents CANNOT care for others if we neglect ourselves and our own well-being.

    4. Live Learn Better

      This is one thing that should never be taken for granted. Mental health is key to development and happiness and it must and should not be toyed with.
      I do well by keeping a very close circle and enjoy a lot ‘Me Time” . Many people, including loved ones” may not understand what you’re going through or how you feel sometime, but hey! DO YOU.

    5. Nichelle

      Oh yes! Having a spouse who supports you and your me time is so important. Mental health is important. Especially now.

      Too many people fail to ask for help. Also, too many people refuse to acknowledge that mental health is real. Great tips!

    6. Angela

      These are all great ways to take care of your mental health!! I know I definitely need to be proactive with mine, exercise helps me greatly!!!

    7. Stephanie

      Mental health has hit my family hard the last couple of years. About two years ago, my dad was diagnosed with cancer and right after that my sister went into a serious depression. Her husband was the only one who knew she was on anxiety/depression meds and seeing a therapist once per week for just over two years, since their youngest was born. She had post-partum depression. Last month, my dad said it was the worst month of his life, but he was able to get on some anxiety medication as well and said it helped. He was too proud to ask for help at first.


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