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Infertility The Second Time Around

Pregnancy · Sponsored Post · January 14, 2020

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Less than 2 months ago we welcomed our second baby, Charlotte. Charlotte was born through an IVF transfer cycle. I have talked a lot about our original infertility journey, but I want to share what we learned the second time around. A lot was different, and harder this time and I think it’s important to talk about.

Infertility The Second Time Around

Last December, Andrew and I decided we were ready to go back to our RE (reproductive endocrinologist) and talk about doing a transfer of one of our embryos. I really didn’t think the process would be much different than the first time.

We met with her early December and I started on medicine pretty immediately. We thought we would be able to do a transfer in January. Well, that’s not what happened.

The medicine that was supposed to make my lining thick did not make my lining thick, and even with extra medicine it still didn’t work. Then in early February, we discovered I would need another surgery to remove polyps which I had performed three times before. Because of that, it would be extra recovery time before the transfer and the transfer most likely wouldn’t happen until March. I was really disappointed.

Then we got another blow. The embryo we planned to thaw and use was not going to survive the thaw and our only other embryo needed to be re-biopsied and tested because originally it was inconclusive. We also didn’t know the gender of that embryo. All of these things just meant more delays. It meant a lot of time on the phone with insurance, doctors, embryologists, etc. It also meant a surgery (the day before Liam’s 2nd birthday party) and more medicine than I planned on.

(we went on vacation right before my transfer)

As you can gather things weren’t really going the way we planned. I had a really hard time coming to terms with it all because I was impatient and just wanted to be pregnant again.

The surgery went fine and we found out our embryo was a healthy baby girl! We were excited but shocked because we thought we had all-boy embryos! Of course, now looking back I know this was how it was meant to be.

We ended up doing our transfer in March and it worked. But my pregnancy was REALLY hard. I was sick for the entire 39 weeks and had to take medicine twice a day. I had major bleeding at 6 weeks and we found out I had an SCH (a hemorrhage). They monitored it and I was fine but it meant very low activity. I also got pregnancy carpal tunnel syndrome and horrible back pains. That along with a toddler, the hottest summer in years, and moving during it all made for a rather unenjoyable pregnancy.

(20 weeks with Charlotte)

Of course, now that she’s here I am beyond grateful for all of it from the IVF let downs to the rough pregnancy because I have my sweet girl. But, it was for sure a rough year from the start of IVF round 2 to her arrival.

(Charlotte’s arrival)

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Thanks for reading about my journey with infertility the second time around.

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  • 13 thoughts on “Infertility The Second Time Around

    1. Stephanie

      I had no idea you went through all of this. I’ve known a few women who had to go through IVF to be able to conceive. I am thankful I didn’t have to but also thankful the option is there for every couple to try to have a child of their own.

    2. Angela Tolsma

      Congrats on the arrival of your new little one. I had no idea that it could be tougher the second round through. It’s good to share this for those thinking about it. I also had no idea you could find out the gender of an embryo!

    3. Brandy

      I can’t even imagine going through all of this. I also had no idea that you knew the gender of an embryo, this is so full of information I had no idea. Glad you shared it, it does help us understand what some Mama’s go through to get their little bundle of joy. Congratulations.

    4. Holly Lasha

      IVF is such a blessing, but there are definitely super hard parts about the process. Fortunately, we only had to go through it once with our first. Congratulations on your beautiful baby!

    5. Beth Ann

      I love reading stories like this. I’m sad it was so difficult (and I imagine expensive), but my oh my what a lovely ending to this story. Congratulations!


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