So January update first:
1. Go to sleep earlier: Yes I have most nights gone to sleep much earlier and I definitely feel the good effects from that. Still need to work on unplugging earlier.
2. Exercise better: I didnt feel like I needed much work on this but I have increased my cardio to on hour a day.
3. Toss restore reorganize: Yes! I cleaned out my closet today and had 4 full sized shopping bags full of clothes Im going to donate or sell(the designer stuff Im gonna try to sell). I also organized bathroom cabinets, the shelves in my closet, my dresser drawers, and my desk.
Empty hangers
3 of the full bags of clothes
4. Tackle a nagging task: Yes I cleaned out my closet, drawers etc(big nagging task), cleaned out makeup and cleaned makeup brushes, changed out pictures frames, bought a new lent brush
5. Act more energetic: OK I try I do..but this needs work!
So onto February!
end of chapter notes I took from February
This was an extremely tough chapter for me to read. Post break up with Chad this chapter was tough to read because it made me realize some things in our relationship that were MY fault and some things I have always done.
1. Quit nagging: I am a nag I think sometimes in relationships. I set unusually high standards and I get upset when people dont meet them. I have made a conscious effort the past few weeks to not nag anyone.
2. Dont expect praise or appreciation. I loved this part of the book because she talked about how she would do something nice for her husband and expect praise back and thats NOT why we should do nice things. I was very guilty of this in my relationship with Chad. I felt like because I did so much for him that he didnt ask that I should get praise. This is something that I know we all do and something we should all work on.
3. Fight Right. “How a couple fights matters more than how much they fight” wow thats powerful. Think about it. Do you fight right? Do you snap and yell and react more than stopping and explaining why you are upset and trying to be calm? Cause Yeah I am guilty of not always fighting right. BIG CHANGE HERE!!!!
4. No dumping: By this she meant in my opinion to not take your outside feelings out on others. I do this. I think everyone does this. But my feelings should not be DUMPED on Chad, my family, my friends. Its one thing to need to get feelings out but there is a constructive way to do this and I need to work on that.
5. Give proofs of love. This is something I know im good at. Something I have always dont and something I will continue to improve upon. I feel like I always gave Chad proofs of my love as well as others in past relationships, my family and my friends. I try to show the people I love constantly what they mean to me and how much.
I really hope these January and February goals I can continue to improve upon. The point of the happiness project isnt to do the monthly things only that month but to continue them all the time. You constantly build upon bettering yourself. Hopefully I continue to better myself and I continue to be a better me. Sounds hokey I know but seriously go read the Happiness Project. It is slowly but surely changing my life!!
If you want to join the book club it isnt too late! Head over to my good friend Liz’s blog!
great post girl- i think you have good goals for February 🙂 Plus it always nice to have a fresh start including a fresh and well organized closet ! xoxo
I think this chapter was an eye opener for most of us reading it.!
Great post, Neely! I am definitely guilty of a lot of these things. I am SUCH a nagger!
If I wasn’t already doing two Bible studies, I would buy this book today! Maybe something to get and save for next time January comes along! 🙂
I’ve heard great things about this book. I love hearing about your goals and how you’re working toward them. It’s inspiring! My girlfriends and I started a book club and I think this would be a great project for us to work on together.
I love all the Tory Burch shoe boxes 🙂
Oh man, i want to read this book too. especially after reading your notes!!! Im going to order mine today and hopefully I can catch up! I could use a little more happy.
Wow what a great book!
These are some great goals for this month! What book are you reading? It sounds like a good one!
I’m sp proud of you! 🙂
My BF bought me this book last night. It’s all I’ve been talking about since I heard you talking about the project, and last night at Barnes & Noble, he surprised me with it. I thought I was too late, but I’m not?! I better get on to reading it! ASAP!
great goals! and pretty realistic I would say! theres so many good things being said about this book, maybe I’ll have to try it:o) have a great day girl!
I’m coming over to raid your closet now. FYI.
Your kicking butt at your goals! I definitely dump my other emotions on Ryan & I need to be more conscious and not do this!
great post! love it! I’ve got to go get this book, it seems something i could really use in my life currently! You’ve been so productive girl, loving it!
Great post. We are all human and one day, you’ll find your Prince Charming and he will love you just the way you are. I can honestly tell you that since Fred and I have been married, we fight better, we get along better and we know what each other needs. 🙂
I love this, you are putting forth a lot of effort and that’s so awesome! I wish I could really overhaul my closet/spare bedroom but my house frustrates me because there is NO storage whatsoever.
Love this post! I need to read this book – I think I could learn alot about myself. Thanks for sharing!
Sounds like a great book!
You can go ahead and pack up all those clothes and send them to South Dakota…I’ll gladly accept 🙂
How funny! I know Alisa from another blog. Interesting that you are studying her book. Now that I have seen a little of what is in it, maybe I’ll get it!
After reading this post and some info about the book I think I’m going to have to join in! Thanks for this 🙂
I’m really enjoying this book! I’ve really need to clean out my closet….like now!
I love your goals! I have got to learn how to go to bed earlier! I totally agree with “fighting right”
This sounds like an amazing book. I will add it to my post-grad school reading list! P.S. I think you are doing great!