We have ALL said this at one point or another. Things in life just don’t seem official til all of the interwebs know about it right??
If you are in a new relationship, if you are pregnant, engaged, married, bought a house, got published, started a blog, bought new shoes, ate a cheeseburger…its not official til you post that baby on Facebook right? Facebook Official. Its a thing.
But why? Why do we care if the interwebs know? Granted I am a Social Media Strategist, Blogger and Writer so my whole life is on the internet…everything is internet official from the mac and cheese I eat at Victor Tango’s to the self portrait I take of me making a silly face in my car. Instagram that shit right?
But do you ever wonder what life would be like if we didn’t have Facebook and things were just official when you decided? What if you took a pregnancy test and at 12 weeks told your friends and family and thats how people found out? Not your ex boyfriends, sisters, cousins, grandfathers bff congratulating you on Facebook.
For your viewing pleasure…a few things that SHOULD NEVER BE FACEBOOK OFFICIAL
Just sayin right?
Dont even get me started on what we share on Twitter…AHEM Anthony Weiner….
The point kids is maybe we share too much on Facebook, maybe we put too much stock in that something needs to be on Facebook before it means anything. What would happen if you got engaged and waited a month to post it on Facebook…would you be any less engaged?
This is more of a Social Experiment and Curiosity.
I also took a poll on twitter about things we just HATE on Facebook and here were some of the responses(you were warned) don’t get offended…this was a twitter convo I am sure many of you saw. We were honestly discussing how we feel about certain parts of Facebook and some of these are out of order….
Tell me in the comments how you feel about things in your life being Facebook official.
I mean hey….in my mind I’m not in a relationship till its Facebook Official….or Am I?
lol, Neely this is a great post!
I don’t have a FB anymore… so yeah. LOL.
I got rid of FB almost a year ago, and I never looked back.
Best decision I ever made.
I honestly use Facebook so infrequently now. 5 years ago and beyond when it first came out when I was in college and such, I definitely was addicted and documented way too much unnecessary things. I just don’t have the time or patience to sort through everything everyday. Same goes twitter. I have both still but just don’t use them as much.
LOVE THIS POST. I’m glad I have cut down my facebook use (and my friends list) in the past year because it is that much less irritation. I don’t need to know what the kid who sat next to me in high school biology is doing now and what his ignorant opinions are. I just don’t.
(though I may occasionally facebook stalk him haha)
Not gonna lie, over thanksgiving, we announced to our families that I was 12 weeks pregnant, but wanted to wait to tell my husbands grandparents when we saw them at Christmas. Then we posted the ultrasound on facebook the next day. A few days later, we got a call from his grandfather who checked his FB for the first time IN A YEAR to ask if it was official because it was on facebook. oops… FBO it is.
hahah this is awesome and true.
More reasons why Sarah is Facebookless Sarah. 😉
LOVE YOU!
Honestly, I am that mom who posts a million pictures of my kid to Facebook and the majority of my status are about them. In my defense (which may be a silly one) all my family lives 300+ miles away and Facebook is the way I communicate with them, give them updates on the family etc. I am thinking about doing a major Facebook cleanse but then when I’m bored I love to Facebook stalk so….I know it would make more sense to just make a photo blog for my kids for the family and I have started and tried that twice but it is just so much easier to use Facebook for that. I figure the people who don’t like it can just unfriend me. I take no offense.
Personally I hate all the pictures and now status trying to get likes. Like this picture if you love your grandma if you ignore you don’t love her reminds me of chain letters you used to get in your email. I also can’t stand the posts to business pages such as Target, Walmart, etc. that complain about the company, not sure why but they irk me.
Great round-up of things that don’t belong on FB. Seriously. People put way too much of their dirty laundry out there.
As far as relationships go, I’ve decided I won’t make any future relationship “facebook official” until it’s “marriage official.” Anyone who needs to know I’m dating someone will already know. And I’m sure there will be photos to drop hints. Good enough for me. It’ll help me avoid that awkward moment of changing my relationship status to “single” and the barrage of sympathetic questions after.
I think facebook is a pretty poor medium to spread ‘important news’ to friends and loved ones because you have to make the assumption that they look at facebook daily, or that they are subscribed to all your posts. Ergo, stuff being ‘facebook official’ or that being something meaningful is really only an extension of our own narcissism. Because really, if you have a new boyfriend or whatever, the people who actually care about your life will already know(or should). Also, side note isn’t it so comical how everyone wants to point out how other people are annoying or tacky on social media, but they stuff they do is NEVER annoying? We are all obnoxious to someone.
I somehow completely missed this poll on twitter, but it’s GREAT! So many good responses! And I giggled at the Facebook comments! It’s so true!
I love this! Going through facebook this morning, I found so many posts I wanted to screenshot and send to you that would be great examples for this post 🙂
Oh FB and I have a love hate relationship. If you send me a game request, spout off religious quotes, say racist sh!t, talk politics with zero facts & using propaganda as a source of fact, or post a picture of your babies poo or pee, that will qualify as an automatic unfriend. It even got so bad durning the election i had to hide my OWN freaking family. I couldn’t unfriend lest I start WWlll. I also love FB for selfish reasons such as how horrible your ex is doing without you, how much ppl have changed since High School, and making you aware of your past dating disasters so you don’t make the same mistake twice.
I’d love to delete Facebook but you have to keep it to have a damn fan page. So annoying
UGH, family.
Before my cousins and aunts and uncles friended me on FB I liked to pretend they were old and wise. Now I know better. Not simply because they use their status to post diary like entries (not their fault for not really “getting” how FB works, perhaps) but the THOUGHTS in those diary like entries. Oh hey 2nd cousin David, turns out you’re a raging republican lunatic catholic. and thanks for commenting on that post on MY BROTHER’S WALL that wasn’t directed at you! I really value your input. pause, not.
BUT you can’t unfriend them because then shit gets awkward. I was braced to not friend certain family back in college when I did remotely scandalous things to protect myself.. now? that’s not the issue. I don’t do or post anything I’d be embarassed to tell anyone about — I’m friends with my grandma on FB. What I wasn’t braced for is how OBNOXIOUS I’d find most my family. woof.
Post of the day. I saw something the other day on an album of this child when she was on a cheer team when she was younger. Their were a few parents that left comments about the owners of the cheer gym, they were the comments that were rude but they tried to make them look nice, by saying that they are nice people but they gave me a hard time. Things of that nature.
I use my personal FB just like my blog. Whatever i chose to share I put out there. If someone doesnt like it dont read it or unfriend me. Trust me I wont b offended. If i want to share what I ate, or that my husband is AMAZEBALLS, or a song lyric I do. Why that would bug or annoy a friend is beyond me. If someone is bugging u take them off ure feed or block a bitch. I dont play the family card anymore. Doesnt matter who u are, if u are disrespectful or dont offer something positive your ass is blocked. Cut the fat baby! 🙂 I get how some people can say “its just FB” that doesnt give u a pass to not take responsibility for what you decide to “say” to another person and about others. Dang… I feel another FB post coming on 😉 Love you Neelykins! Xoxoxo
Love what Kristine said and I agree. My FB page is mine. Personally I don’t post a lot of pictures of my son, but love when my friends post pics of their kids. I unsubscribe from a bunch of people. The only people I do keep are people who post about their kids because that is what I like to see. I also told everyone I could think of in person I was pregnant with baby #2 before putting on Facebook. I also go through and delete people I haven’t talked to in years every now and then. I never understand when people are annoyed at others FB pages- you can customize your page feed.
“i know who my real friends are and they will repost this” or “only 3% of people have a heart and will repost this”. FUCK OFF. oh oh oh and “like this if you think this african baby carrying bricks is more of a man than justin bieber”.. like.. so irrelevant. get off my fb.
So i got engaged in April and didn’t put it on my FB page until June. But I put the date back to when it actually happened, so nobody noticed. And I have to say, it does make it seem a little less real because people don’t know. Obviously it doesn’t mean we AREN’T engaged, but it definitely feels more real when people know about it and comment on it.
This is an absolutely great post! My boyfriend and I didn’t post of facebook that we were dating until we had been together for about 2 months. I kind of like it better that way because then you don’t have all the drama of everybody in your business. Our next big decision is to post it on facebook when we get engaged. I’m thinking not until like a month before the wedding!
I love this. Priceless. Part of me really doesn’t want to be on Facebook at all anymore because of all the privacy restrictions that seem to have disappeared!
love this post neely 😉
i believe in facebook official..but i shouldn’t cause it’s stupid.
and those first things you posted, i seriously used to spend hours on lamebook and failbook just reading those. SO funnny!