Well yesterday I talked to Chad for a few hours
It was odd. It felt so normal.
I think I set high expectations for people in my life.
I want people to live up to my standards and when they dont I am disappointed.
Chad didnt live up to my standards and I realized that in our conversation yesterday.
This was not a “lets get back together convo”
It was more of a “I need to understand convo”
Now I realize a few things:
1. The right guy will love the things about me that Chad didnt
2. I will not change myself
3. I will be ok
Im not ok right now but Im thinking Im on the path to be ok if that makes sense?
Its still hard to get out of bed, and brush my hair, and leave my house
Its hard to think of dating again….ever
But Im 26 and I have a lot of life to live.
That is my post for today.
Amen to all three! You’re 110% right, and I think the fact that you’re aware of the first two means the third is right around the corner. 🙂
Try to have some fun this weekend! 🙂
Hugs,
Sam
Hang in there girl!
Hang in there! The right guy will come along and all of this will then be worth it 🙂
You’ve come to such a tough conclusion about your relationship with him–but it’s so awesome to know NOW that he wasn’t meeting your standards. I think that’s a huge step in healing! 🙂
I hope your convo at least gave you a little closure. Not knowing the “whys” always makes it so much harder. You are spot on with every single thing you said. Its okay that you aren’t “normal” now, but you’ll get there and you will be so much happier for it. In the end, if you have to change who you are for someone it will likely eventually fall apart anyways. Clearly, its HIS loss. You need to sulk for a bit (wine goes very well with tears as you know), find a quick rebound guy and then go on about your life and enjoy letting things just happen.
Hang in there. It happened for a reason which just means the right guy will come along! Keep your head up 🙂
Glad you are starting to feel like you are on the right path. You are so right though when you say you don’t want to have to change for a guy, it’s not worth it if you can’t be your true self!
Those are wonderful things to realize and they are 100% true! Clearly you and your parents need to move to California so we can hang out all the time and then you will meet your man here! Hubby has single friends. Get on the facebook and look at them. xoxo
I’m glad you got some answers from him. You are totally right. The guy for you will love you for everything about you, and he’s out there somewhere. You’re gonna make it through this! Love you dear!
You really will be okay. One day you will hopefully be able to look back and laugh at some of the fun times with Chad. But for now you have to focus on moving on. No need to rush it. Everyone has their own way of processing these things. You are lucky to have a such a great family and wonderful friends to help you through it. I wish you the best!
I know it’s cliche, but everything does happen for a reason! It takes time to heal a broken heart, but in the long run it will be worth it!
Good thoughts always!
emily
I don’t know what to tell you Neely except I’m thinkin of you. {HUGS}
Hang in there you’ll be okay
It always sucks at first, but you’ll bounce back! You are right on with all 3 of your conclusions! There is no need to ever change yourself! The right guy will come along!
I don’t know if I’ve ever commented before, but I’ve been reading for a while. Sorry you’re having to go through all of this.
Your so right! Hang in there, you’ll be okay before you know it!
hang in there!! you’ll be ok. and before you know it, the perfect man for you will come along and will love every aspect of you! and thats what you deserve, nothing less!
I agree with all three of those statements! Just remember, you are a strong woman and you can get through anything!
Hang in there, girl!! you’ll get through it all!!!!
You are so right; it’s refreshing to hear such positive words so I know you will be absolutely fine. Hang in there girlfriend xo
Just wanted to let you know I am thinking about you. Hang in there!