Nearly 3 years ago something happened in my life that I haven’t been able to let go. Its not that I think about it everyday or even much at all but sure enough something will happen and it will creep its ugly little head right in there.
There are some things coming up that I need to move past the above situation to enjoy. Things that will change my life forever in the best way possible.
But how do you let something go? How do you release something that is so painful and so infuriating? How do you let something go that changed your life?
I realized something you dont. You have to make peace with it. You have to realize that even though it was awful even though it crushed me even though I didn’t think I’d recover I did. I moved past it. My life wouldn’t be what it is if that hadn’t happened.
I think letting it go is hard for people. Its hard to take a bad situation and fold it up in a napkin and set it on fire.
There is nothing wrong with remembering what happened but we cant let that effect our current life. You are bound to miss out on something wonderful if you hold too closely to the past.
That’s my challenge for my self. I need to get on with letting it go. Letting things from the past go or rather realizing that they made me who I am.
I guess Im still learning 🙂
Do you have things from the past that you find hard to let go?
It is very hard for me to let go of things from the past. Very hard. Sometimes I’ll think I’ve gotten past something, only to have it crop back up again later.
Ummmm try everything haha I have an easier time forgiving than forgetting and even if I “forgive” I still bring it up all the time and harp on it. I’m terrible at it and I just don’t know how to get past it either…
Your blog spoke to my heart this morning, a few years ago someone hurt me, and there is still no closure, still no explanation…and while I always think I’ve moved on and let go, there will be something big happening and I begin to miss this person and it takes away from the joy! So thanks so much for sharing your heart this morning!
I definitely think we all struggle with letting go of things from our past! But you’ve got this, girl!! 🙂
Oh friend, I can relate so much to this! It’s so hard to let certain things in our past go. I have such the struggle with dealing with all the resentment I hold! It’s time to leave all that crap in the past :).
It is really hard to let go, I know that. Sometimes I forget, but then there it is again. I’ve had some traumatic events, luckily I think I’ve let go about 90% of anything man-related, which I think is doing pretty good 🙂
I think it’s something all of us struggle with – it’s hard not to if we cared about something deeply. I have anxiety anyway – so I over think things which doesn’t help 😉 Take it day by day! xoxo
Girl I have so much to let go of its not even funny. And just when I think I have, they creep back in, staring me in the face. One day at a time….
It’s true, everything we go through teaches some sort of lesson and leaves us only stronger. Doesn’t mean some of those lessons are any easier to handle though, lol. Glad you’ve found the positive way to look at something that was hard xx
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I wrote a similar post a few months ago. It was very hard to “let go” of the past – my failed marriage, and the events that led up to it. I finally just had to make peace with it. It doesn’t happen overnight, it is a process much like greiving. You have to go through all the steps that finally lead to acceptance, and ultimately – peace. Hugs to you my friend. I’ll leave you with my favorite quote by Elizabeth Edwards. “She stood in the storm, and when the wind did not blow her way, she adjusted her sails.”
I hear ya! Almost 4 years ago, my life changed forever, and I ave had a hard time letting go- even though I fake it well. It’s only recently that I have realized that I am starting to accept it and move forward. Accepting things and the way those things effect you is one of the bigger challenges in life.
Some things in my life have been hard to let go. I don’t know what your religious beliefs are. A couple months ago, I started going to a doctor for past life regression. The principle behind it is sometimes on-going issues in our lives are actually a pattern that have occurred in previous lives that our soul remembers. I also use the Sedona Method on my ipod to let things go.
I’ve had to let go of so many things but the hardest thing I’ve had to let go of was after my son passed away.. I “lost” his father, the first love of my life after that too. He got into some trouble with the law (drinking and driving) and was sent to rehab. I supported him throughout the entire situation.. while I was trying to grieve myself (and not doing a good job at all).. things were horrible. Long story short– his parent’s told him that when he got out of rehab he could either come home and have a place to stay, all the money he wanted, a job as a manager at one of their stores, a car, etc.. and if he came home to me– he would have none of the above. This was December 2005. He didn’t come home to me. I was heartbroken but of course the grief of losing my son outweighed everything. One day I decided that I would do a search for him on Facebook and low and behold there he was.. although his page was semi private, I was able to see that he had married someone in Sept of 2006 and had two little girls, the spitting image of him. I was crushed.. I literally couldn’t function for about a month. There was no hatred involved, just pain. Not only did he not choose me but he had found someone, AND SO QUICKLY, and then he was able to have healthy babies (that didn’t die full term at birth like mine). After a month of being broken hearted and suffering.. I had to let it go. I couldn’t make myself suffer like that.. I couldn’t continue to wonder if he still thought about our son, if he’d told his new wife about it, etc. Although I will admit that on our son’s birthday and Christmas I do wonder if he stops to think about our son.. it’s not something that weighs so heavily on my mind that I suffer– sometimes it just takes TIME to let something go and you have to do it on YOUR TIMELINE. XOXO
Girl, I could go on and on about shit I’ve been thru in the past that I cannot get over… I’ve been in counseling for years because of everything. I feel ya, sister.
I have a really hard time letting things go too. They always haunt me, it seems!
There are several things in my life that I’m willing to forgive by not forget. Events that have shown my family’s true colors. You grow up your whole life putting people (your close family) up on pedestals only to find out they are nothing as they seem. I’ve moved on, but I’ve chosen not to include those people in my life any further.
I needed this today! I’ve been feeling very stuck the last few days. If you figure out the whole “letting it go” thing, let me know because I’m obviously sucking at it lol!
Amen. It’s hard to let go, but for me, it’s necessary for my sanity. Plus, I think as things happen in life, our perspectives change, and things that happen no longer seem important.
Absolutely. I am able to forgive, but forgetting isn’t always the easiest for me. & it can be the most petty of things too, some of it is bigger, but in the long haul, a lot of it, I look back and think MEGHAN! Just let it go already!