I will admit I was one of those girls who thought you get engaged and then magically wedding planning is super easy. Oh I was wrong.
Now granted certain things have not been difficult for us because our parents are very supportive and helpful but there are just so many details and I constantly feel as though I am forgetting something.
We have the date set and the venue booked. We now also have the Photographer and DJ booked as well as the Rehearsal dinner spot booked. We have asked all of our bridesmaids and groomsmen as well.
But take the dress…no clue what kind I want.
So many options and styles. Tell me that choosing a dress was this hard for everyone? I watch that say yes to the dress show and want to throw things at the TV because seriously those girls make me mad.
Then there are things I forget like cake toppers, first dance songs etc that seem impossible to pick.
I love A and Im so excited to get married but I wish there weren’t so many decisions.
Also I think I spend more time pinning things than actually making decisions….
Yeah I feel better now.
I hope you enjoyed my rant 🙂
I totally hear ya on this one! It was incredibly stressful to plan our wedding, but worth it in the end! The best advice I got was to not wait too long, it makes the planning more stressful and you are more likely to change your mind. We ended up planning the wedding and getting married within 6 months, looking back I’m glad we did it that way. Do what works for you! Don’t get discouraged, it’s so worth it! Oh, and the dress? I had the hardest time deciding! Finally, I had that moment where I just “knew” it was the dress, but it took a while to find it! Good luck! 🙂
Where’s your venue?! One of my best friends is getting married on 10/4, and she got engaged almost a year before. Couldn’t believe how many of her top venue choices were already booked a year out! Crazy!
We came thisclose to eloping because of the details and family opinions, but once the day arrived, it was magical. Hang in!
All of the details have a way of being overwhelming, but don’t let them get to you too much. Wedding planning is supposed to be fun! I was one of those annoying people who easily found a dress–in fact it was the first one I tried on! Don’t worry, it will all come together 🙂 XO
I was so overwhelmed when I was planning my wedding! Not only all of the little details, but all of the opinions too! It was probably not a good idea to for me to plan a wedding while renovating our house either, so silly of me lol!
The best thing I did was pick one of my best friends, who wasn’t in the wedding, to be my right hand woman the day of the wedding. She titled herself “b*t%h” girl and pretty much any decision that needed to be made that day she did because then I didn’t need to take care of it. I invited her to the rehearsal, everything as she was just as equally important and I knew she would make the same decisions I would. It was a godsend!
Just know that it does take time dear. It’s ok because all the hard work will pay off! I’m sure whatever you have in mind will be perfect!
Have you gone dress shopping yet? Maybe once you’re there and trying some on you’ll have a better idea as to what you want.
Neelykins fear not, your wedding will be amazing. You have so much time. Mine I had to do in less then 3 months because of a job transfer. 175 people plus we were on a small (tiny) budget with zero help from parents so we had to do/pay for everything ourselves. If I can do that, you can put yours on no problem in October. You have already got so much done. Put those bridesmaids and MOH to work right away with small details. You will find the right dress but you have to forget the magazines and just go out and try them on and price them in the shops. I found a amazing dress on clearance that fit perfect on my 2nd day out. The dress really does pull the wedding coordination together so go forth and shop! Your flowers will be a huge expense, we could not afford them so we found a wholesale flower district area and put them together ourselves. Saved a ton of money doing that and it was fun to gather everyone and put them to work. But if your lucky enough to afford flowers, order them now because they are always a problem when you order them trough a florist. It will all come together as your very organized already!
Ugh, girl I hear ya! Although for me, the dress was actually the easiest part. After spending hours and hours on Pinterest & watching Say Yes To The Dress, it was obvious that the dresses I gravitated towards all were around the same style. I knew I didn’t want the poofy ball down, I wanted lace and I wanted cap sleeves or straps of some sort. I didn’t want a halter because they make my shoulders look wider than they already are. But my biggest fear was that the style I loved wasn’t going to look right on me. My biggest suggestion is to try different styles because what you think you want might not be what you end up falling in love with on your body. I was blessed in the fact that the first dress I tried on which had all of the elements I wanted & loved was the one. I couldn’t breathe, I couldn’t stop smiling… it made my bumps disappear & made my curves look amazing. And it wasn’t too heavy, which was important to me! Every dress I tried on {3 or 4 others} after that just wasn’t comparing. And I honestly just can’t wait to wear that dress in October & walk down the aisle! You’ll find it & what they say is true.. you really will just know when it’s the one!
Jamie @
The Growing Up Diaries
Oh my gosh I hear you. I can’t even tell you how many times I said “wait, I have to pick that too?!” I was shocked when our DJ wanted us to pick a song to play while cutting the cake. So. Many. Details.
But it’s worth it when it’s done! Love reading rants – keep them coming. 🙂
Umm well considering I went to a justice of the peace and got hitched.. I am the wrong girl to ask. Although I do fawn over the things I would love to have if I ever redid my vows. I told hubby we would do it right the second time around. Including a cake, which is another thing we didn’t have the first time through.. ahem.
I’ve obviously never been wedding dress shopping but my friends that had the best luck just started going to stores and trying dresses on.
It’s all so exciting that it gets hard….at least that’s what I’ve heard. I’ve planned five weddings for people and have absolutely loved it!!! But I have a feeling that when it comes time to planning my own I will die! haha! Keep ranting! It makes you feel better! Good luck!
Any post that is a rant about wedding planning, I am on board with. Especially if it ends in an ecard! Good luck!!
I got married a LOOOOONNNNg time ago. I don’t remember it being this complicated. I guess back then life was easier.
I had to put an end date on pinterest for myself–at some point it just got frustrating to know I couldn’t do everything I pinned haha
I definitely hear you! I got married in September of 2012 and felt the exact same way! My advice… if you need it or want to hear it is to just take a deep breath and either print a checklist or make your own. I know making lists helped me! As for picking a dress. I watched Say Yes to the Dress everyday and loved it. Thought I knew exactly what I wanted. Actually, the dresses I didn’t really care for on TV were the ones I loved when I tried them on. Crazy, I know.
Anyway, I hope everything works out and you actually enjoy the wedding planning process. I know I kind of miss it now that its past. And really, it’ll all come together. 🙂
Steph – Signing Steph
I feel you sister. I’ve been engaged for a year and a half, and our wedding is set for September. I went dress shopping for the first time and OMG it was like some sort of medieval torture. Good luck!
Oh gosh yes– the sheer volume of details in wedding planning is INSANE. The best thing I ever did was to hire a wedding planner/coordinator. I did most of the work leading up to the wedding week, but she was there to check in and make sure I was staying on track and getting stuff done. Then by wedding week, I was able to relax while she took over and ran the show. And as far as your dress goes, don’t worry about what you think you like– just try on a billion different ones and then you’ll know what will work. Happy wedding planning! 🙂
Girl, if it makes you feel better, I got married less than 3 months after getting engaged and you’re sooooo much further along than I was. You got this girl, and I know your wedding will be so special and so perfect for your and your future hubby!