I never want to write this post but Im honestly getting tired of it. Im tired of seeing perfectly good lives thrown away by drugs. Yes its an addiction and its a disease all that crap. I have my opinions and they come from a different place.
I have grown up nearly my entire life with a sister who is a heroin addict. So when I get online yesterday and I read that one of my favorite actors has died of a heroin overdose I just lose my shit.
Why? Why throw away that kind of life and career for heroin? What did heroin do for you?
Then we all get online(and I am guilty) and we glorify his death. We say how amazing he was which is true, we say how sad it was which is also true but we dont say how terrible it is that he threw his career, life and family away for heroin.
Its a disgusting drug(as they all are) and it tears your life apart. I know this first hand as I saw what it has done to my sister and my family.
I did not watch Glee so when the actor from that show died I thought the same things.
Same with Health Ledger, Michael Jackson etc. Its sad. Its a lot of talent just gone.
We all sit here and we glorify it.
Take this for what it is. It’s just my opinion. Im not here to start arguments and get in fights. But like I said I have spent most of my life around this addiction and its frustrating to see it first hand then see people glorify it.
so unbelievably well said!
I feel the same. Outrage to throw away your life for drugs.. I am so angry that he left 3 children behind who will have to suffer this humiliation for the rest of their lives. I cannot watch these actors any longer. They are so damaged forever in my mind. He had a choice and his choice was to do 8 bags of heroin on a bathroom floor instead of get help and be a good Dad. I am also disgusted. I come from a family of alcoholics so I have seen it first-hand to.
I agree with you 100%. I basically said the same thing to my husband yesterday…He had so much going for him (namely, an Academy Award), and it just makes you wonder what could be going on in a person’s life that drives them to that lifestyle. My husband seems to think that celebrities tend to develop a “God complex,” that they just don’t believe it could happen to them, but in today’s 24-hour media-driven society, I have a hard time accepting that anybody could really be that naive. As far as your sister goes, my dad was an alcoholic (he passed away 10 years ago), so I know all about addiction being a disease, etc. (and I know the “diagnosis” doesn’t make it any easier to deal with or accept). Best wishes to you and your family!!
Like you said, it is a disease, and I find it incredibly sad when this is how people end their life. I don’t think that people have much logic when they have an addiction.
I completely agree with you!!! Well said!
I completely agree… my boyfriend’s brother was/is a drug addict and he has all but destroyed his whole family with his selfishness. He’s still a pretty selfish, lazy person even though he is now clean but I don’t think the family is as strong as they would be had they not gone through his addiction, him stealing their credit cards, getting kicked out of school, ruining their mother’s credit, forcing her to refinance the paid off house they owned… It just makes me so frustrated and he’s not even my brother!
Both my parents are severe alcoholics. My dad went to rehab when I was young (around 8) and hasn’t had a drink in 18 years. I honestly don’t even remember what it was like when he was drinking. My mom, on the other hand, will not give up drinking. We were on vacation in October and I woke up in the middle of the night with her wandering the hallway of our hotel half naked after a night of drinking. It makes me want to cry, especially because I know that she is in a lot of pain with personal demons that she can’t fight alone. My brother has had trouble with drugs/alcohol in the past (high school and early adulthood) but has thankfully straightened out. I had a big problem with drinking up until the first semester of freshman year in college. I had a very bad night of drinking, and since then I drink rarely, if ever. I know that both my brother and I have a heavy predisposition to alcoholism, so maybe that’s why it was so easy for us to give it up after seeing how much trouble our parents have had. Sometimes, I’m scared I’ll be just like my mom.
I’m 4 years clean… Thank god. I threw away a college nursing degree, my job, my apt, my jewelry, by fiancé and put taking care if my baby on hold because of that shit… It’s an awful experience and I can’t even begin to fix the damage I did. I wish I could’ve seen a glimpse at what my life would look like… But I did. I saw the ugly heroin addicts all strung out. “I was different” “it wouldn’t happen to me”… Luckily I didn’t get too far….far enough but not a total loss, although some days it feels like one… I hope your sister gets well someday or is well
Take care.
It’s actually kind of sad how I got addicted… I started using oxy with a boyfriend in college… Did quite a bit… I started getting flu like symptoms (dope sick) and didn’t know why. The dr said I had the flu and kept giving me more opiates to treat my cough,,,, by the time I realized that It was from the opiates, I was too addicted….
I agree. I think our glorification of celebrity and their terribly irresponsible and often illegal antics is just depressing. I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve had to deal with this first hand.
I’m so sorry about your sister. I know how addiction wears down family members.
I’ve never watched Glee, but I was horrified by the special tributes on award shows to the actor who died. Can’t people mourn without making it glamorous? I wish instead we would celebrate people who take care of themselves, make good decisions, and stay out of trouble.
I do agree with you! It is sad but like you said, he just wasted his talents on drugs. 🙁
You are so right. As you said, it is TRUE that he was an amazing actor, it is TRUE that it is sad that he died but it is ALSO TRUE that he made bad choices which ended his life. Threw away his family, his future, left behind grieving family and friends to deal with his choice to use drugs.
I do not know a drug addict so I know it is easy for me to speak on this but…my whole life has been about choices. Was I offered free drugs in high school? Yes ! Was I offered free drugs at concerts and in my adulthood? Yes. But…I never chose to take them because I know how have always heard how easy it is to become an addict. I made the choice to stay clear of drugs because I didn’t want to risk becoming one.
Celebrities (or anyone for that matter) may have more access than I do to drugs, may have a more hectic life than I do (and my life is pretty hectic) but they also have a choice to take that drug for the first time or say no to it and never try it – if you never try it, you can’t become addicted to it.
Such a shame to see a good life just wasted.
Unless someones life has been touched by addiction they don’t get it. To a lot of people it’s just like watching a reality TV show, they don’t understand the devastation of what drugs can do to a person or a family. Sometimes more so the loved ones.
Agreed completely. My brother struggles with heroin, too. If people were more honest about drugs and actually talked about them and the problems they cause, I think our society would be much better off.
I completely, 110% agree. Couldn’t have said it better myself. 🙂
I totally agree. It’s such a waste. And just a shame that people keep taking the drugs even after seeing others od. My best friend from high school had a brother od on heroine and it was traumatic and awful.
wow that’s heavy! I am sorry to hear about your sister, that must be sooo rough. but I couldn’t agree with you more, the celebrity deaths should become teaching moments, especially for young kids out there.
I agree sooo much. I used to hang out with heroin users too and watched their lives spiral ever downward until I just finally cut all ties. Some of them overdosed and died, most of them just have shitty lives now. Anyway, thanks for saying it, it makes me really angry too.
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