When we are born we are given all these expectations. By society, by our parents, grandparents, etc. Even growing up no one really asks what we want out of life.
Here I sit a mere couple of weeks before my 29th birthday finally realizing what I want out of this life.
A loving relationship full of laughter, trust, smiles, hugs, amazing silences where you can just be, giggling, cooking, wine, travel, holding, kissing, arms wrapped around each other, love. I found that.
A family where I can be my goofy silly ridiculous self. A dad and mom who are healthy and will live to see many grandchildren and hopefully great grandchildren. A sister who doesn’t disappoint my family. I have some of these…the rest hopefully in time.
A career I wake up everyday excited about. Something I love doing, am passionate for and couldn’t imagine not doing. Something I would do for free if I didn’t need to work. I have this…and I continually work on it.
Amazing friendships. The kind where you can say, do, be anything and they love you and get you. I dont think every friendship is like that but the ones that are hold on to with everything you have because they come around about as often as the first thing on my list.
A life of my own. Outside of all of the above. Loving myself, loving the person I am becoming. Knowing how to spend time alone, go to a movie by myself, wander around a mall, go on a trip, spend a weekend alone, etc. This is one of the most important things to me. My independence. This is something I work on all the time. I love seeing movies alone but there are times I get too much in my head. Maybe its the depression and anxiety creeping in but Im a work in progress what can I say.
Obviously I want more than just these things out of life. I want a lot of things. But this is the core, the skin and bones, the heart and soul of what I want and need.
What do you want out of life?
Great post, Neely! I think we all strive for similar things in life but it’s harder than it sound. I also get pretty anxious when I think about doing things alone, but then once I’m in the moment, I’m fine (wine helps….)!
I think all of those things listed are pretty much what I want out of life. I also want to make sure my creative side is always being used in some capacity, I’m just not happy when I feel my creativity being stifled. Awesome post.
Great post! Too often we focus on what we have and don’t have in the material sense, and not what we want and need out of life in the existential sense.
I too cultivate my independence. I think it’s important to love yourself and spend time with yourself in order for you to be a suitable companion to others in the various roles we play: partner/wife, mother, daughter, friend, etc.
Great posting. My Mom raised me to only be independent and not ever depend on anyone. She taught me to love myself first and always focus on the postive aspects of life, never want for material items. You have to be independent in every sense to love yourself and to have healthy relationships with others.
I love this quote because after years of torture and financial ruin by toxic Borthers and a evil sister in law I said goodbye to them last year for good and told them to step away and not return to my life.. Its very empowering to stand up and take care of yourself in your own life, leaving toxicity in family or friends behind. My friends are my family and I am better off for it . Blood relations does not mean people are good for you.
You are on the right path fostering your independence and the life you want. well done
This is a great list. I think most people really just want these things!
Great post! This is something everyone should take time out of their day and think about. For real and not just impossible things, but things that are real!
Great post! It is so true! I have often said that what I want in life is living in the moment and enjoy every bit of it. With that comes my happiness and everything is easier! 🙂
Independence has been key, and also really hard, for me when struggling with Anxiety. I am so glad you’re figuring out what you want. But also jealous that you don’t look a day over 23!