Happy Monday all! As promised here is my recount of my summer nanny job. No holds barred….the raw uncut version. Now that my job is over I can finally post my REAL opinion on the blog.
If you follow me on the twit ….
You would know I had a nanny job this summer…
We will here now be referring to them as the M family(must protect the “innocent”)
The M family weren’t a normal family you nanny for….
Let me first say I looked for a different nanny job from day 1 and would have gladly quit if I found a suitable one.
They have 2 children G and B(girl and boy)
Girl is 7 and started off the easy one, boy is 10 and likes to argue about everything from why he cant put ketchup on his veggies to “No you cant play with knifes” to screaming at me and telling his friends “I hate my babysitter.” Yes he was such a wonderful child….
I spent 11 weeks working for this family during which the following happened:
1. Douchebag dad(DBD) yelled at me 3 times(one of these times I cried in my car after)
2. DBD didn’t pay me on time 4 times
3. DBD called me at night after work twice to ask if I could stay unreasonably late the next day
4. Sent me to Costco 12 times
5. Was in his underwear when I got to work 4 times(tightie whities and he is not a thin man)
6. Was on eharmony once(they are divorced….it was awkward)
7. Talked badly about his wife to me probably 50 times(awkward)
8. Force fed me something I dont eat once
9. The mother talked down to me 6 times
10. Sent me to Costco twice(I hate costco and I feel its whats wrong with America)
11. Got talked back to oh I don’t know 3600 time(just an estimation)
12. Had 7 instances where I said no and the kids called their parents who said yes
13. Had eleventy billion discussions about why they needed to put on sunscreen and why they needed to eat veggies
14. Had 50 zillion discussions about how to take turns
15. Washed DBD’s dishes about 700 times and I mean gross dishes to where I couldn’t tell what the food used to be….and no I had no choice.
And many other things…..
So here are my tips for the M family for when they hire their next nanny
M Family,
When you hire another nanny please keep the following in mind.
You may want to tell your children to respect adults. But they don’t respect either of you so maybe you should start there. In fact while we are on the subject if you hire a nanny and give said nanny authority you should not allow your children to call you to protest something said nanny said. For example when G and B wanted to dip their veggies in ketchup and said nanny said “NO” they shouldn’t be allowed to call and get another answer. This shows your children that they don’t have to listen to or respect what other adults tell them to do. You are raising little assholes!!!!! You have two children who argue more than they realize if they stopped bitching about everything they could actually be having fun. Stop saying its because you are getting divorced. My parents got divorced when I was 7 and I didn’t disrespect people or act like a little shit. You are teaching them that this is OK BEHAVIOR! It is not! Furthermore your older child is sketchy. He talks about wanting to kill his sister and punch her in the face, and smother her in his sleep. Ummmm that’s not normal behavior and you may want to have him see someone. Your younger child is too old to wet the bed. Also DBD you shouldn’t hire someone who watches your children and expect them to clean up after you. You hired a nanny not a maid. No washing dishes for 45 minutes plus everyday is not my idea of a good time. Neither is prepping your meals(I am no chef), going to costco, and organizing your kids closets! I was there to watch your children! Get off your lazy ass and spend some time with them. When you say you are “working” and really you are laying in your bed watching TV and letting your kids playing video games that doesn’t make you a good parent. JUST SAYIN! I mean half the time I’m not sure why I was there. I spent more time reading blogs than doing anything because you kept telling your children they could play call of duty which is not appropriate for their ages. When your nanny tells you they are allergic to cats you also could have waited till the end of the summer to get a cat and then expect the nanny to transport the cat in their car back and forth in between your houses. Furthermore have a better system for transporting your kids! If one parent is paying me that’s the house I should be at! Like on my last day I was on M family Mothers hours from 1-6:30 but was doing crap for DBD til 5:30. NOT OK!
Basically…if you are paying someone to watch your children who should be your number one priority….treat them better than you treated me. I have never been happier to escape a family in my life!
Go EFF YOURSELVES!
Love,
Neely
So that’s how I spent my summer in hell….needless to say…I’m ready to student teach now
Have you ever had a horrible job? If so tell me more
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Okay that sounds so absolutely TERRIBLE. I feel so bad for you! I can’t believe you managed to stay for 11 weeks. It’s like the Nanny Diaries x10.
Belly B
GREAT POST! How horrible. Kids are VERY hard at that age and especially ABOVE it. I know, I have two stepdaughters.
Yep. I would have skipped when I saw DBD in his undies.. totally inappropriate. I also probably would have hit those kids. My children may whine with regularity, but they don’t act a fool to other adults.
Oh my gosh…ugh! So sorry you had to deal with THAT this summer!
Go Student Teach and be all awesome 🙂 I’m also a teacher, so I know just how exciting it is (and how hard it is to deal with terrible parents.)
🙂
Oh my! That sounds so bad! well at least it is over!
Oh my! That sounds so bad! well at least it is over!
Can I just say that you’re incredibly strong willed to stay with such a crazy family? I need more of you’re motivation…because I would have told them to kiss my ass, haha.
Seriously though, no one should have to put up with that. You’re the nanny not the maid! Glad your summer of hell is over!
LMAO! When I was pg with my first (who is now about to be 17, HOLY CRAP)my mother told me, “you will do your children NO favors by raising them to be the kind of people no one can stand to be around”… I parent by that advice every single day and so far, they are a pretty likeable pair.
congratulations for surviving 11 weeks with what certainly sounds like a family from hell! As a mom, I totally pick and choose my battles and if C grows up and wants to dip his veggies in ketchup (and that’s the only way he’ll eat them?) so be it. As for the bedwetting and threats of harm? That’s serious. Hopefully the parents will stop caring so much about themselves and actually seek help for those kids. That makes this moms heart hurt!
And what’s so wrong with Costco? I kinda love it there. On a Tuesday morning. When half of america isn’t there. Lol 🙂
Um so this sounds MISERABLE! It’s a good thing that your student teaching is coming up soon, so you don’t learn to totally hate kids. Sounds like you will be totally fine in a classroom!
let it out girl- i remember seeing your tweets and just feeling horrible! if i lived in texas we def have play dates going on so you could enjoy some downtime and get paid for it 😉 at least you LIVED to tell the tale to all of us! xo
I’m so glad you wrote this! I’ve been dying for details. 🙂
Those kids sound like spoiled brats and the parents are disfunctional, enabling douche bags. I’m so glad you’re done with that job. I’m proud you survived until the end, I’m not sure I would have made it!
Oh, Neely, I love you. I have been waiting for this post ALL weekend!! HAHA! I totally was a nanny for two kids JUST like this in high school for a year and a half. I don’t know how I survived that long!! Congrats on making it through the summer without locking the little brats into a closet!
Oh my gosh. People are out of control these days. I can’t believe you stayed. I would have walked out and never come back after the first day!
I knew some of the gory details, but force feeding you? And DBD in his underwear? GROSS. This family Needs counseling! And you need a spa day!
I am so happy that you are dunzo with this family. I knew you weren’t having a good summer with them but I didn’t realize the extent of how bad things were! Their dad was IN HIS UNDERWEAR? I can’t even…
Omgosh Neely! This sounds horrible! I feel so bad for you 🙁 I can’t believe you stayed around that long sister! I would have walked out as soon as I saw the underwear. GROSS! 🙂
Happened to me this summer too! Except I had one little girl who was about 5 and thought the world revolved around her. She is spoiled rotten, and thrives for attention now that her baby brother came along. Luckily thy hired another nanny for him. She would yell at me on a daily basis to the point where I wanted to cry everysingle day. When I got off at SEVEN every night all I wanted to do was crawl in bed and sleep… KNowing I had to be up at six the next morning I got some real shitty pay, and I can’t even blog about it because the Mom googled my name and started reading my blog…physco!!
You’re not the only one!
Boy am I feeling for you! What a waste of a summer., and your time with a family who obviously took advantage.
Wow! People do not realize the injustice they’re doing their kids by allowing them to be little brats! Can you imagine the adults these kids will be????
You have been raised in my estimation, there is no way I could’ve stuck it out that long. And the first time I saw that man in his underwear would’ve been the last. YUCK!
Ugh that is SO terrible, I’m sorry you had such a terrible nannying job!!
Dang Neely, I don’t know if I could have stayed there all Summer, it sounds absolutely horrifying! Those children need some serious dicipline! Eek! Sorry you had to go through that girl!
OMG that is HORRIBLE!!!!! I know student teaching MUST be better than that!!!!
yukk! what a disappointing set of parents let alone kids! It is sometimes amazing how some parents pay people to step in for them and basically think said person is there for them not the kids! i couldnt agree more with what you said! i hope student teaching rocks your socks! we can trade more “normal” battle tales from the classroom soon xoxox
Sounds terrible, so glad you are done with them lol.
Ew. This sounds terrible! I would have been counting down the days too. No 10 year old should be talking about harming his sibling – ever.
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Oh jeez, Neely! In his underwear? That’s effing disgusting and creepy. He sounds like one of those old men who wears a robe and has a gold chain w chest hair- so creepy! I’m glad ur done! Good luck w student teaching! I miss being a teacher- u will love the littles!
haha. your letter kind of cracks me up. glad you got out of that!
i had a pretty awful job as a real estate assistant for a lady who was pretty much the devil. i’m sure of it. it was the most miserable year of my life.
Okay first I am so sorry that you had to deal with that I wish you had been able to find soemthing else. Second it sounds like the parents and kids have major issues. It is so sad that people just let kids do as they please when they please and then turn around and complain about the way people act these days… Hello it is because of people like them that let them get away with anything. And the disrespect thing would have been an a no way from day 1! So glad you can move on!!!!
Oh my GAWD. I think I truly have no words. All I can say is that I rejoice WITH you that this nightmare is over! You are much stronger than I (Obvs). I wouldn’t have been able to endure that!
Good luck with student teaching, I’m sure it will be great!
YIKES! Glad you survived and glad it’s OVER!
WOW. I cannot believe he was in his underwear around you. That (and obvs everything else too) is so inappropriate. And gross. Ew. Glad you’re done with them!!!
Sounds horrible. The poor kids to have such terrible parents. I really hope they paid you VERY well.
What a nightmare! I nannied for a family the summer before I started teaching. It was a nice family and I knew them from church. The parents were great to work with and the kids weren’t that bad either. But I still found myself getting irritated with the kids a lot toward the end of the summer, just because I had spent so much time with them. I think nannying is hard for that reason, and I’m sure it was 1000 times worse when you didn’t have a good family to work for 🙁 I’m sure student teaching will seem like such a relief after that!!
I have no words. I just can’t believe this family! What kind of parents act like that and how can they let their children act that way?? I’m impressed you made it the whole summer.
Unbelievable!! I can’t believe how these parents are raising their kids. What little terrors!!
This is terrible! I cna not believe that is actually possible. What kind of people are they! ew!
I am laughing because this sounds like every experience that any nanny has ever had! I know how frustrating it can be! But I am with Ashley, you have to learn to pick and choose your battles; like the vegetable thing if they want to eat their vegetables with ketchup then let them, as long as it is not physically hurting you {which it wasn’t} then little things like that {while maybe annoying} are no reason to start war. The parents were absolutely in the wrong to talk to you the way they did! But as much as it sucks, get used to it…you are about to start teaching school and I can honestly say this summer job was great preparation for being a teacher! This summer will look like cake compared to what you are about to have to deal with. The biggest thing to remember is that ‘even if you don’t agree with it doesn’t mean you are in the right’ these are someone else’s children and they have the right to raise them how they wish! Even if you don’t like it or agree with it! Just chalk it up to you will not raise your child like that!
Oh. My. Gosh. I don’t know how you dealt with that crap. I would have blown up or just had a migraine for 11 weeks. You’re definitely more patient than I am. Those kids sounded like little demons but it’s pretty obvious where they learned that behavior. At least now you’re prepared for the worst when you student teach! Bad parents AND bad kiddos!
That is definitely a summer job from HELL!!! Douchebag dad sounds like he is appropriately named. And as awful as your time with them was.. it sure made for a great post because I am rolling in laughter!!! Those kids sound TERRIBLE!!
ugh that sounds awful… it’s so funny how in the movies nanny jobs seem so great—then you get one and it is SO less than great…awful actually! I had one nanny job with three kids that I adored I loved that job. then one with an awful child and awful crazy strict parents.glad you’re done!
spare the rod spoil the child
AND OHHHH NASTY ABOUT THE DAD IN HIS PANTIES
I had a pretty rough experience this summer. Most people don’t understand bc yes, I was in the Bahamas, but I got paid crap to work above and beyond what any nanny should have to work. I can’t stand it when couple’s have more kids then they want to handle. A stay at home mom who does nothing all day, but she still needs me from sun up to sun down 6 days a week. Not to mention the fact, that in our original agreement she would be paying the $400 plus to get me back to the states….do you think she did? Nope and not only did she bail on that, she also ignored the last 4 emails that I sent her. I have a lot of built up anger towards this woman….loved her kids, but she showed her true colors and she needs to learn that being a mom isn’t a part time job. Glad I got that off my chest.
Sounds like you had a pretty bad experience as well. I hate when families expect you to clean up after them….the kids are one thing, but no one wants to clean up after grown men and women.
On a happier note, hope you’re having a great day and congrats on making it through this job.
Well this scared me out of ever wanting to nanny (and it was something I was seriously thinking of going into!).
You’re so right though, people are leaving the care and well being of their children in someone else’s hands – they need to make sure that person is happy. So sorry you had such a rough summer – in all honesty you stuck it out which is pretty commendable. I would’ve bailed the first time I saw DBD in his underwear…
I wondered why I hadnt heard anything about the nanny job. Now I know why!
What horrible parents and awful kids.I don’t think I could last a weeks watching those hellions. Yikes.
I REALLY hope they come across your blog and read this! That would teach them!
I’ve been waiting for this post! How horrible!!!! I don’t know how you stuck it out. At least it was only a temp job! Good luck with student teaching. Hopefully that will be MUCH better!
I can’t believe you survived 11 weeks in pure Hell! I would have hit those kids for sure! I am SO glad you wrote this!!
You said eleventy billion!!! LOVES IT!!!
First and foremost, I commend you for sticking with it!! I don’t know how you did! I would have quit so freakin fast!!! Proud of you pretty girl!!!!!
I’m so glad you are not working for them anymore. I have no doubt that you are going to make a fabulous teacher!!!
xoxoxoxo
Everyone says the youth of America is what’s going to send this country down the tubes, and they’re right. Unfortunately, it’s not those kids we have to blame! It’s their terrible parents! If you’re going to blame the youth of America, blame the stupid adults that raised them that way! Thank you, I’ll get off my pedestal! Sorry you had such a crappy summer. It’s ok, what goes around, comes around. My rents divorced when I was 6 and I turned out just fine! I don’t know what is going on with the 30-40 somethings that are raising these children that have no respect and think they are entitled to EVERYTHING. We’re screwed.
Oh gosh!!!! What a horrendous way to spend your summer! Geez
I don’t know how you did it. One of those little shits would have been a goner. And no, it’s not normal for B to plot ways to kill his sister. He’ll probably be a serial killer – watch your back! I hate babysitting and just the thought of nannying makes me want to stab my eyes with toothpicks. You’re a saint! Thank god it’s over!
You are a very strong person to last the whole summer with those crazies.
Did I tell you about the kids I kept the summer before I started college? I kept them three days a week. The girl locked me and the boy out of the house one day because she was mad. It was nice. We also had to go driving around backroads to find their grandmother when her car broke down. Being as directionally-challenged as I am, it’s a miracle we ever made it to her. Seriously.
Wow! Hell is An understatement! I commend you for staying with the job, though. Good riddance it’s over!!
omg! insane! you told me you were nannying for some bad kids but eek! i would have smacked them, and their parents! ha! thank goodness that is over with!!!
good luck with student teaching! 🙂
That is just awful!! I was a nanny for 2 little boys during college and loved it! It’s a shame that some families don’t treat the people that care for their children better!!
Ugh. Bad parents. It is frustrating to feel like you aren’t appreciated for your hard work, too. Good Luck with student teaching! I have wanted to go back to school to teach for awhile, but I remember how students can act toward student teachers and subs. Good Luck!!!
you’re right. that was very entertaining. i am so glad i was never a nanny.