Its Kind of like that Bowling For Soup song…but really.
So my high school reunion is coming up next month…10 years. Let me tell you on a scale of 1-10 I’m about a 2 of excited. Why? The first 3 years of high school were fine. I was a cheerleader, a class officer, President of the Key Club, Student Council…etc. But my best friends were either a grade older or went to other schools so Senior year wasn’t my fav…I mean I had friends but I don’t feel like I had really great friends at school. After school and on weekends were spent with my boyfriend who went to a different high school and my best friends who were all in private school.
Then there are those people from high school that are starting to put up pictures from “Those great fun senior year days” it just makes me feel left out. Although at the same time I’m glad no one is posting awkward pictures of me on Facebook…you win some you lose some 🙂
Why is it those same girls who can make you feel like crap in high school can continue to do it 10 years later? Don’t get me wrong…I wasn’t Josie Grossie….we all know what I’m talking about…
But I still feel like smidge of insecurity …you know…the will the popular girls talk to me kind of thing? I mean come on its 10 years later! Why do I still care?
Do we ever grow out of that? Do we ever truly escape Josie Grossie? Do we ever walk up to those girls and bullshit about random stuff and feel completely confident? I mean I should… I am so much cuter than I was in high school,I have a great job, I have a Masters degree and we are all adults…
I guess time will tell….
Do you still have high school insecurities lurking around?
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For the first few years after high school I felt super weird about seeing people I went to school with.. I’d moved on from most of my HS friends but if I bumped into them it was very awkward.. I’d avoid shopping at stores where people from HS worked etc.. which sounds crazy!
But last year I was invited to a birthday for one of the girls I did like and there were HS people everywhere.. both those she invited and another group we ran into and it was kind of a mini reunion. I didn’t love it, but it wasn’t half as bad as I’d imagined. Everyone had certainly grown up and moved on, I saw girls who rarely spoke at school chatting like besties.. the girls I’d had some conflict with spoke to me like it never happened and even if it felt a bit fake, it was much better than it could have been! I think your reunion could turn out to be really fun. Ten years is a long time and I’m sure you’ll find everyone has matured quite a lot since then!
I can totally relate to this. I was in cheerleading, show choir, band, drama club, dance team…it was like Glee before Glee was even thought of except no one got preggo. But anywayyyy, my sophomore year sucked because one of my closest friends was dating a senior and she ditched me for him and his friends for homecoming. We patched things up now but that year sucked majorly. And I spent the rest of high school being better friends with people from my church camp and youth group, not anyone from school really, even though I was involved in so much and had “friends”. I feel the same insecurities as you and even now when I run into people from my class at the bar or shopping, I feel like they are judging me.
Oh well, screw ’em all!! Have a blast 😉
Maybe not quite, but I wouldn’t be excited about a reunion either – all that “lookie what I got / became…” It shouldn’t be so competitive, but that’s just life.
Luckily, no one at my school seemed to have wanted to organize a reunion (it’s been 10 years for me too), so I guess I’m off the hook 😉
I lost most of my insecurities in college, but there is one I can not shake! I was almost made fun of for being so pale (we’re talking ALBINO white with dark hair!) so I started tanning my senior year of highschool. It made me so much more confident and I finally felt PRETTY! But here I am at 25 STILL TANNING! I’m terrified of being so pale again!
Oh High School…I HATED High School. I wasn’t the unpopular one or anything, but I most definitely didn’t hang out with the popular kids nor wanted to. I’ve already decided I won’t be attending my reunion, because honestly, a lot of people in my graduating class still act like they’re in High School…and I’ve moved on.
I can relate to this pretty well….my high school career was exceptional, until my senior year…I moved back to an old school with people I hadn’t been around since eighth grade. It seemed like peoples opinions of me never changed even though I was a completely different person by that time. I am still extremely insecure around people from high school. I don’t know if it will ever go away, but you have a lot to be proud of. Show it off and be confident if you can, because others will see it, and most likely if those girls still give you the stink eye, they are SUPER jealous. Most people are.
I do have some high schoollish relations yeah. It is just something with the people in a particular class I had that makes me really insecure. Even though it is noting wrong really. It is like, I am sort of trying not to have contact with them and try and avoid them. After all, I had a blast before and after them. Just that we got stuck together and I just felt really left out and different! I think you should go and have fun, just imagine them in their diapers, that makes them less scary! “)
ughhh I hear you. while I was going through high school I had friends, I bounced around but I was never 100% confident. I had more awkward/feeling left out moments then confident ones, I’d say. It didn’t help that I discovered a diffuser for my OOC curls AFTER high school..alas.
The one thing that I still get pangs about is seeing people from high school still hanging out with others from high school. I have friends from that era of my life, but they were met through other avenues/other schools.. if that makes sense. I don’t keep in contact with a soul from my graduating class. Sure, there are some girls I’ve “reconnected” with on social media, and we will reciprocate “likes” on instagram photos and whatnot, but it’s not the same thing. It makes me wonder what was wrong with me that out of 320 people I didn’t form one lasting friendship. Same with college though, I guess. I have college “era” friends, but I don’t really keep in contact with anyone.
I will admit I’m guilty of the “competitive” nature a bit. I never post about it on social media, but I think it to myself: I may have been a nerd or awkward in high school, but now I’m engaged, a lawyer at 25 and learned how to tame my hair and SURPRISE SURPRSIE- you’re still an asshole! makes me smile a bit. 🙂
I didn’t go to my ten year reunion. I work at the high school I went to so I’m there every freaking day! Haha! I’m sure you’ll be fine, friend. Mean girls will always be mean girls, but you know what, you have a lot to be proud of!
Oh, girl. I was afraid of the exact same thing. But I went (in June) and was so glad I did. 90% of the people exceeded my expectations and weren’t the “mean” girls I expected them to be. I really think you’ll be glad you went. And if you get there and hate it, you can always leave.
It’s because those girls that we went to high school with haven’t moved past being ‘those girls’. They still get a kick out of being the it kids & want to take this opportunity to remind the world that they were. Most of us went on to enjoy college & our adult lives, we have found new circles of friends that we love and have grown past high school while still maintaining the friendships that were important to us from then. Some people haven’t, they still hang out with the same group from high school so to them they still are the cool kids.
On a scale of 1-10 I’m right there with you on the ‘2’ level. My only commitment to going is that I promised a friend of ours that I wouldn’t bail. 🙂
I graduated high school 2 years ago, so yes I do haha. I can’t wait for my 20 year reunion so I can go back and make everyone call me “Dr. Bailey” once I get my Ph.D. Mwahaha. Take that, mean high school bullies!
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With HS graduation I just wasn’t interested – I this with FB I got to see everyone and catch up. I think 6 people attended our class reunion – saw it via FB hehe 🙂
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Hahaha YEAH Josie Grossie! My bff and I used to always use Josie as our description when we were having a gross day or felt like an old high school dork! I don’t think you ever escape Josie Grossie – whether good or bad, high school impacts your life forever. I missed my 10 year reunion last year, but I would have been nervous about it too – for the same reasons. Will anyone talk to me? Will I be one of the, “Dang, she got fat” girls? etc. I hear ya!
My first high school was tiny with those distinct groups like on Mean Girls. Luckily I moved halfway through my freshman year and then my high school was so huge nobody really cared. There weren’t really groups anymore. It was so nice! I also remember looking around me at my graduation ceremony and thinking “who are all these people?”. I didn’t recognize anyone around me in my own class, lol!
Mine is coming up too, and I don’t really feel motivated to go. I keep up with everyone I want to keep up with on facebook, and I still keep in contact with my close girl friends from high school.
I was never a fan of high school. People always told me that you will miss it one day after you graduate, hate to say it, but to this day I have not missed anything about it. Maybe only the fact that I was younger and didn’t have near the responsibility that I do now. I wasn’t like the weird girl in school, I had friends, I had boyfriends, not nothing will sticks out for me worth going back for. Now that makes me feel a little odd, like I actually should want to go back or something. I for one do not want to go back, nor do I even want to go to my high school reunion. But I guess time will tell on that one. Good luck to you!
I didn’t go to my five year reunion… I went to a different school my senior year and honestly didn’t make a connection with the kids there. I really doubt any of them would have remember me.
yes. I didn’t have a great high school experience at all. hardly any friends at school, mostly all my friends were from my youth group and lived 20 minutes + away from me. I definitely feel left out when people talk about how much fun they had with their good friends in high school.
Oh yes. I didn’t love high school. But I like who I am now! I just have to remember that. I feel like certain things from back then never leave us, but sometimes when we’re lucky, we wind up with wonderful lives, husbands and more…. I think that will make it okay when it’s time to go to mine!
Ohhhh, Neely…. my ten year reunion was summer ’11 and I skipped the whole shebang. Then again, I had just gotten married and it was people I don’t wanna hang out with vs. this awesome new husband. Clearly, awesome husband won. It all so sounds so familiar to be nervous about whether the “popular” ladies and I would talk. I figure, I’m still friends with the people I wanna be friends with. And that’s that. I hope your reunion goes well for you.
Kudos to you for planning on going to your HS reunion! That’s one get together I most definitely will not be attending! All my pals are college pals, and that’s more than fine with me. High school girls can stay in high school…
Yea I feel like ours was a waste of time. Sad to say. The non-school function stuff was good. I mean I liked seeing the people I liked but it was insane. Not sure if you heard about the auction. Ridic.
I should’ve passed on the organized events but oh well.
Yeah, I will be totally nervous when my reunion comes around. I had some good friends there but there are definitely people there that can make me feel like I’m a teenager all over again.
I HATED high school. Worst time of my life. I had some friends, but I was not popular at all. I would have loved to been, but it wasn’t in the cards. I was so miserable that I was going to switch schools my senior year. Inwas serious abou it. I had a meeting with their principal and was going to enroll, bit decided not to because that school was overcrowded.
I got a slow start in high school, but by senior year I was having a good time. My reunion is next month. I’ll go, but I’ve got mixed expectations.
of course & thats why I wont go to my reunion..i dont give a f about those people
I went to my reunion. Was sort of dreading it but was so glad I ended up going. It was good to see those who went. The popular girls from my school still all hang out. I think its kind of weird…
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