Where do I start today….
Have you ever been so disappointed that finding the words was just nearly impossible?
For a blogger that almost seems ironic. Thats our job. Find the words. Write them down. Vent. Scribe. Write. Write. Write.
Today. Today I am disappointed. In Forbes. Yes Forbes.
Yesterday Forbes came out with its list of the 100 best sites for Women.
The list is alphabetical so if you go to G you will see us bloggers most favorite(snark) site Get off my Internets. I have never once blogged about this site.
Why? Because I dont want to give it the page views. Do I have a page on there…yep. Do I read it? Only when my stats jump to see what kinds of lies and crap are being said about me.
But Forbes…really? This is a site for women? A helpful site for women? You rank this with Huffington Post Women? You rank this with the Bloggess? 1. The woman who wrote this should be promptly fired because clearly she did no research. This is a site of cyber bullying. Cyber bully is why people kill themselves. This is why over the last decade suicides have increased and cutting and drug use have increased. (Fact)
Forbes. WHAT THE HELL were you thinking?
Do you think that this is OK? That a site that makes women feel terrible about themselves and hurt and cry is OK? Its not. Some women say I never look. Some say its funny I laugh it off. But lets be real, a site that is saying horrible things about you, your friends, your family makes you sad. It gets you in the pit of your stomach.
I could go on and on but this is on my heart today. If you are a blogger it should be on yours too.
Seriously. Gross. Just gross.
It made the Forbes list? Seriously? That is horrible! I am sorry you are on there…never let it get to you! It is not worth it!
I do read it and yes, there are definitely harsh things said and I really don’t think it’s right to make fun of people’s appearances or their families. They are cheap shots and just plain mean. There is a lot of just plain rudeness in the “forums” (although I do think there is a lot of excellent commentary made and very good threads, especially the ones that don’t focus on bloggers). I wouldn’t consider it one of the greatest sites out there. But I do think they do a great job of calling certain bloggers out and bringing to light general dishonesty about certain things (since many bloggers will just delete comments they don’t like). Bloggers aren’t (all) these perfect people. I’ve read stories on there about bloggers who are writing blogs about defending child pornography, using their blogs to raise money for themselves because they have a disease or a sick kid (which later turns out to be totally fake and they had scammed their readers out of money), or defending rapists (because women shouldn’t be so provoking to men). I think these are issues that are important for readers of blogs, most of whom are women, to hear about. So yes, I can see how it would be hurtful and as a (former) blogger, I would be upset to be featured on there, especially if they were making fun of things that can’t be changed (like my looks) or me as a person. But if they called me out on something that I didn’t realize was offensive or wrong, I think I would take it with a grain of a salt and perhaps try to be more sensitive in the future. So yes, not what I would consider one of the best sites on the internet, but I do think it has its place.
Cyber bullying is exactly what it is, that site is so disgusting.
I never even heard of GOMI until a couple of weeks ago. I’ve never even visited the site because I’m afraid of what I might see or read. It’s disappointing when people have to knock someone down to lift themselves up.
I am furious and disgusted. There is nothing good that has come from that site. It’s cyber bullying, plain and simple. Either the girl who made the list didn’t do her proper research or she is the kind of person who gets pleasure out of tearing other people down. Either way, it’s sad.
Totally agree.. How can that be a top website for women?!
I read about GOMI once and didn’t know what it was, so I googled and was very sad that I did.
I am not a blogger but I read this and I do not understand why on the internet we have this attitude of hate that is viral and is so harmful. The low class behavior of insulting people, their looks and families is not acceptable. Thank you for the quote, someone hurt my feelings today- not just once but twice in a big way so I needed to read that . It helped me realize that its not me its how they are . I always count on your blog to cheer me up or give me good insight. Thanks
Seriously??? I totally agree with you. I would never suggest that page to anyone. Very sad.
How disappointing. There is already so much cattiness in the blogosphere and among women in real life, there’s no need to create a whole website with the goal of fostering it!
I’m sorry, but you’re being FAR too sensitive about this. GOMI provides gossip and a dose of reality about popular blogs. Their posts, from what I’ve seen, are nothing more that fluffy fodder for people who have a few minutes to kill. Now, the forums? Yeah, there are a lot of people with a lot of opinions on there. But, welcome to the internet sweetie. GOMI provides the forum, not the content. So my advice is, get over it. And for God’s sake, start proofreading your posts.
It’s one thing for those vultures to have a place to hide and spew their hate but it’s quite another having such horrid behavior validated by Forbes.
I wonder if Forbes ventured inside the forums and knew exactly what kind of disgusting filthy hate speech they were endorsing by including it on this list?
I’m with you on this one. We, as women, need to be lifting each other up, not tearing each other down. What ever happened to, “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all”? Bad judgment call on Forbes’ part, for sure.
Nice graphic. But GOMI isn’t doing anything to bloggers. Bloggers are doing this to themselves. If bloggers stopped doing the things that would land them on GOMI there would be no need for it.
I personally don’t find it to be disappointing at all. I agree with Alex in that you have to use GOMI in the right way. You’re writing a blog and expressing an opinion. Not everyone is going to like that. But it also means that you can’t jump on the cyber bully bandwagon because the thread about you has a different opinion about the content you present. No one on there is telling people to kill themselves or making just outright derogatory remarks. I agree that some of the criticisms go to far – no one should be body or family snarking and some of what is discussed is purely speculative. At the end of the day, it’s meant for constructive criticism. Most of the comments on the thread for you is that people used to enjoy your content but that’s been taken over by sponsored posts. That’s a valid concern for readership – if you’re worried about providing enough sponsored content, you should also be valuing your readership content. Ultimately these are the people who keep your blog alive, not companies looking to shell products. I can 100% attest to this because it’s the sole reason I stopped subscribing. I only came over here purely because of the posts I saw on GOMI (which, lets be real, it gives you pageviews…so getting mad about it is like Kim Kardashian getting mad about the paparazzi following her)
I support Forbes decision because the creator (Party Pants) is a woman who created a blog that went extremely popular – how is that different from any other major website that went on there? I feel GOMI gives bloggers a hidden insight to what the non-ass kissing commentators are really thinking and provides an opportunity to improve. GOMI IS a great site for women because it’s a counter voice to the constant rah-rah sisterhood of the traveling pants we’re all supposed to support each other regardless of the fact that some of the stuff someone posts might be batshit insane. I know this probably won’t matter to you at all, but just something to consider.
I think this is a really great comment. I went over to GOMI and looked at the posts on the front page. A woman posting borderline pornographic shots of a 12 year old child. Daycare workers posting pictures on Instagram ridiculing the kids in their care. A women posting about how she’s proud of sleeping with another woman’s husband. Are these things that we should blindly support because we’re women and they’re women? I think the day care story is something that parents should definitely be made aware of because it could happen to anyone who leaves their kid in someone else’s care.
So we should also go after Yelp and TripAdvisor because they allow negative opinions? It’s the SAME THING! You profit off of your blog and are thus providing a business. The public has every right to complain if they feel dissatisfied. They are being respectful of the bloggers’ site and taking commentary elsewhere. If. Loggers allowed opportunity for clarification and opinions on their site, GOMI wouldn’t exist.
It’s against forum rules to post about at personal blogger information or to make negative comments about extended family and friends of the blogger. As some of you post that you’ve never spent time on the boards, I’d seriously consider doing just at before you make judgment. And for clarification, most of the ladies on there have advanced degrees and there are several lawyers and doctors. It’s not a bunch of high schoolers or uneducated crazies.
I’ve never looked at that site. Sad that it’s considered a site for women.
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