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A Letter To My Baby Before He Becomes A Big Brother

Baby/Parenting · November 21, 2019

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My little chicken, my angel baby, my darling boy…

On Saturday your baby sister is going to come into this world and no doubt shake things up. For the past 2.75 years, you’ve been the main focus for me and your dad and now you will have to learn to share our attention. I have so many fears and anxieties about this. I never for a single second want you to not feel loved, or important. You will always be our baby even though you’re going to be a big brother.

I hope you can cut us a little slack as we figure out this new normal and we promise to do the same for you. I know it’s going to be tough not only sharing our attention but also sharing this space. You have had free run of this house and I am sure there will be a lot of things we ask you to not touch or play with. I’m sure we will tell you to be gentle, or be quiet, or use your inside voice more than we plan to. Just remember we are new at this too.

You have been so much fun the last few months as you realize a baby is coming and you ask to see baby all the time! You love to kiss my stomach and give it hugs. You love watching the weekly What To Expect Videos or “Baby Charlotte videos” as you call them. You love to ask questions like “will baby Charlotte come in the playroom?” “Will baby Charlotte eat?” Your curiosity has been the most fun.

I can’t wait to see the kind of relationship the two of you have as you get older. One of the main reasons we decided to have another baby is so you could have a sibling to grow up with. I hope you know that we think you’re going to be a great big brother. I hope and pray every day that you two have the greatest bond. One that I did not get to experience growing up but your dad did with his brothers.

Having you be my only baby these past years has been pure joy. You have taught me more than I can ever explain. From how to be more patient and nurturing to how to be more forgiving of myself. You have pushed me to my breaking points but also bring me down to earth and give me some of the biggest laughs I have ever had. We think you’re pretty much the funniest, smartest, sweetest, kid there is.  You are such a funny, kind, smart, curious, sweet, empathetic boy. You never like to see someone sad or hurt and when they are you feel it deeply. I hope the baby crying doesn’t freak you out too much.

Your dad and I love spending time with just you and while that may look a little different now we will always make you one of our biggest priorities and you will always have our attention. We will do our best to make you feel included, and special.

I can’t wait to see you as a big brother my little love. She is one lucky little girl because she will always have you.



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  • 11 thoughts on “A Letter To My Baby Before He Becomes A Big Brother

    1. Stephanie

      Aww this is gorgeous! I remember having a lot of the same concerns but my older son loved stepping up and helping with his little brother. He was about a year younger than Liam is now, so a little different. But seeing them together, watching them grow up these last 4 years together has been amazing.

    2. Angela

      This is such a sweet idea! I remember the complex emotions I had thinking about my son becoming a big brother to his sister. I wish I would have done something like this!!


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