So I generally consider myself a positive person. I mean sure I have my negative moments but I really strive to stay positive in any situation. I think it’s important to have a positive attitude. Between life as a mom of two and just ALL THE THINGS that have gone on in the last nearly 2 years staying positive is just essential! I wanted to share a few of the ways I do stay positive in any situation. Negative times will come up but it’s how we respond to them.
How To Stay Positive In Any Situation
Is it something you can control? I feel like when I talk to someone who is going through something rough or even something maybe at the time they think is rough I always ask “can you control it?” SO much in life we can’t control and when we realize that it’s out of our control it gives us the freedom to not let it affect us so much. My mom is great at reminding me of this!
Is it something you can help/fix? Is there something you can do? If you can do something to better the situation or fix it then yes, by all means, do it! That’s a positive attitude to have. But if you can’t then you have to try to let it go as much as possible.
If it won’t be an issue in 5 years let it go: I heard this quote once “if it’s not going to matter in 5 years, don’t spend more than 5 minutes being upset by it” I think this is so true. When I think of all the time I wasted in life being upset by stuff that just doesn’t matter today I could slap myself!
Can you talk to someone?: I think if you are able to talk to someone about it who isn’t related to the situation they can usually help you see the positives or see how what you think is a negative may not be as much of a big deal as you think.
Is there a glass half full to the situation?: So let’s say the situation is that you didn’t get a campaign you applied for with a brand. But because of that in a month, you are able to get another campaign you wouldn’t have been able to do had the first worked out. That’s a glass half full approach.
I will leave you with my favorite Steve Jobs quote that really helps me stay positive in all situations.
“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.”
I love this quote because it truly always works out. The dots always connect. The positives are always there.
What do you do to stay positive in negative situations?
This post was originally published in 2019 and has been updated for 2021
Love the third tip, “if it isn’t an issue in five years let it go”. I tell myself something similar every time too! It really does put things in perspective! ❤️✨
Love this!! Thank you for sharing! I’ve actually never heard the quote “if it’s not going to matter in 5 years, don’t spend more than 5 minutes being upset by it” and I love that!
Thank you!! I really liked your list of questions… I felt like they were super helpful. We’ve been struggling to get pregnant and this was such an awesome reminder!
I was just talking to my 6-year-old this morning about not worrying about things we can’t control. We had a cool front blow through Houston this morning so it was storming while we were getting ready for school. The power went out for a moment and it must have been quite a surge because it flipped most of the breakers on our house and did the same for most of the neighborhood. My husband went and flipped them back on but my son was so worried the power would go out while he was getting ready for school. I tried to explain to him not to worry since it’s out of our control.
Also, I really like the idea of the 5 year rule. I hadn’t heard that before but it’s a good one!
I tell my kids to look for a solution or let it go as well. Usually, there often is a solution to a problem but people would rather sit and grumble rather than put that energy into the solution. Thanks for sharing!
Love everything about this post! I always have to remind myself that if I cannot control it, I have to let it flow. That’s been the hardest thing for me over the past few years but it’s gotten much easier. I remember that I am doing my best and if it doesn’t kill me, it will only make me stronger. 🙂
Thanks for sharing! I could’ve used these tips at my last toxic work environment. My personal method of avoiding negative vibes is to simply walk away. No use in trying to argue against negativity when it can backfire at any moment (especially in front of patients in a hospital workplace). Thanks for sharing these!
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For me, when I am faced with a negative situation, I will take a break from the situation and consults with friends. And also, I will try to think about positive outcomes for the future.
I love this! I post a lot about finding the positivity in situations, and I feel like this really hits the nail on the head. It’s so easy to get in our head about things, but so hard to get out of it. With some intentional thinking we can find ways to reframe our mind and see the good. 🙂
I find that when I am feeling negative, I attract negative people and situations. Becoming aware of my thoughts helps me recognize how I am feeling and then I can change my thoughts (for the better!), which attracts positive situations.
I’ve never read the quote about the dots before. I really like it. Something it can be so difficult to find the positive in a situation but that perspective can make such a difference.
It can be so hard to let go, but so helpful when you can just take a break from worrying about something that is out of your control. I like the strategy too of thinking 5 years out.
These are all good pieces of advice. It is not worth to be carrying around excess emotional baggage. It is not healthy! I love your advice #3. That is very doable!
When I get negative, I just try to divert my mind to something else. I have felt, keeping myself busy helps me to stay focussed and hence, less time to think about negative things.
Positivity is so so important especially in these times! I love your insights, especially the one that talks about, if it won’t matter in 5 years, don’t spend 5 minutes worrying about it. A great sentiment and a thought to love by.
Oh man, I need to read these to my boys. They’ve both been having anxiety issues lately and this would really help. I try to remind myself of the “if it won’t matter in 5 years let it go” often.
Love the third tip, “if it isn’t an issue in five years let it go”. I tell myself something similar every time too! It really does put things in perspective! ❤️✨
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Love this!! Thank you for sharing! I’ve actually never heard the quote “if it’s not going to matter in 5 years, don’t spend more than 5 minutes being upset by it” and I love that!
Love these tips, Neely! I definitely tell myself the one about it mattering in 5 years, it always helps me to put things into perspective!
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Thank you!! I really liked your list of questions… I felt like they were super helpful. We’ve been struggling to get pregnant and this was such an awesome reminder!
I was just talking to my 6-year-old this morning about not worrying about things we can’t control. We had a cool front blow through Houston this morning so it was storming while we were getting ready for school. The power went out for a moment and it must have been quite a surge because it flipped most of the breakers on our house and did the same for most of the neighborhood. My husband went and flipped them back on but my son was so worried the power would go out while he was getting ready for school. I tried to explain to him not to worry since it’s out of our control.
Also, I really like the idea of the 5 year rule. I hadn’t heard that before but it’s a good one!
I tell my kids to look for a solution or let it go as well. Usually, there often is a solution to a problem but people would rather sit and grumble rather than put that energy into the solution. Thanks for sharing!
Love everything about this post! I always have to remind myself that if I cannot control it, I have to let it flow. That’s been the hardest thing for me over the past few years but it’s gotten much easier. I remember that I am doing my best and if it doesn’t kill me, it will only make me stronger. 🙂
Thanks for sharing! I could’ve used these tips at my last toxic work environment. My personal method of avoiding negative vibes is to simply walk away. No use in trying to argue against negativity when it can backfire at any moment (especially in front of patients in a hospital workplace). Thanks for sharing these!
If you are interested in wellness & travel, come swing by my site as well! Would love to share tips!
For me, when I am faced with a negative situation, I will take a break from the situation and consults with friends. And also, I will try to think about positive outcomes for the future.
I love this! I post a lot about finding the positivity in situations, and I feel like this really hits the nail on the head. It’s so easy to get in our head about things, but so hard to get out of it. With some intentional thinking we can find ways to reframe our mind and see the good. 🙂
I find that when I am feeling negative, I attract negative people and situations. Becoming aware of my thoughts helps me recognize how I am feeling and then I can change my thoughts (for the better!), which attracts positive situations.
I’ve never read the quote about the dots before. I really like it. Something it can be so difficult to find the positive in a situation but that perspective can make such a difference.
These are very meaningful questions to ask in any situation. Staying positive is primordial to move on in life.
It can be so hard to let go, but so helpful when you can just take a break from worrying about something that is out of your control. I like the strategy too of thinking 5 years out.
These are all good pieces of advice. It is not worth to be carrying around excess emotional baggage. It is not healthy! I love your advice #3. That is very doable!
When I get negative, I just try to divert my mind to something else. I have felt, keeping myself busy helps me to stay focussed and hence, less time to think about negative things.
I love this! Such important information.
Love this! Great advice for everyone.It’s hard at times but this is something one must possess to have control over any given situation.
Love this! Although it is hard at times but this is something one must possess to have control over any given situation.
STAY POSITIVE IN ANY SITUATION IS A CRUCIAL IN THE LIFE. THANKS FOR THE ADVICE.
Positivity is so so important especially in these times! I love your insights, especially the one that talks about, if it won’t matter in 5 years, don’t spend 5 minutes worrying about it. A great sentiment and a thought to love by.
Oh man, I need to read these to my boys. They’ve both been having anxiety issues lately and this would really help. I try to remind myself of the “if it won’t matter in 5 years let it go” often.
Excellent post and I like the way you look at things, as sometimes you need to turn things around and see the best in the situation for sure x
I try to be positive, but it’s not always easy, is it! These are great tips – very helpful!
The glass half full spproach is something I use a lot. It helps and make you carefree for almost anything in life
Thanks for sharing this blog.I love your artical.Thank you so much for your tips.