Hi friends! I really loved Coffee Talk last week so I thought I would try to make it a semi regular Friday affair. Today I want to focus on things that scare me. I think we can all have small weird fears as well as huge life fears and as women we are taught to not be afraid or we are taught to be girlie girl afraid of everything. I think it’s OK to be afraid sometimes to have fears. Today I will share mine and I would love for you to share one of yours below or even in a blog post as well. If you want to tweet about it or Instagram about it use hashtag #ACWOMCoffeeTalk
So lets grab some Coffee and have some Coffee Talk
1. Becoming a Mother: Oh gosh. I want babies so badly…when the time is right of course. But becoming a mother scares the ever loving crap out of me. Not the actually pregnancy or birth part but the raising a human part. I am always afraid I will be a terrible mother. I am afraid I will not do what’s best or make the right decisions for my children. What if I let them have pop tarts? Kidding! I am scared of thinking I know a lot about babies and when the time comes feeling like a clueless dummy. Am I alone here?
2. I am afraid of bugs: So afraid of bugs. I become a screeching teenage girl when I see a bug of any kind. I know this is not uncommon but holy crap bugs. Not cool. This is why I love winter so much. Most of the bugs aren’t around. Summer just kills me.
3. Open Water: Not swimming pools, or even the ocean but more lakes or murky water I can’t see through. Call it fear of the unknown or whatever but I just can’t do open water well. I don’t mind flying over water which is what a lot of people are afraid of but this would explain why I have only been on a boat about 3 times in my life. We are going to Hawaii for our honeymoon and that doesn’t scare me at all because the water is crystal clear! But if we go to a lake. You will see a fear in me that is just not normal.
So now I want to know what is one fear you have? Big or small? Silly or serious? Tell me!
Considering I have really bad anxiety, I have many fears! haha I’m afraid of tornadoes, sharks, roaches, many things! haha Love your coffee talks!
I’m afraid of water too…big time. I don’t mind flying over it, or really even being on a boat. But if I’m in a big body of water, lake or ocean, I *will not* go in past my waist. The thought of not being able to touch my feet to the ground in open water where you cannot see/reach the other side terrifies me.
I am terrified of bees/wasps/big flying stinging things!
I will not step foot in water that is not crystal clear. That’s one of the reasons we go to the Caribbean each year – clear water!
I was terrified of becoming a mom and still remember jiggling my first born a little while he was sleeping to make sure he was breathing. 🙂
My biggest fear right now is snakes. We saw not one but 2 King Snakes (also known as Rat Snakes) in our yard recently. It is all I can think about, even though there has been no sign of them for over a week now.
Motherhood is like that – I live in a constant state of fear I am ruining my kids. You just have to trust yourself and hope for the best! Im sure you will make a great mother!
My biggest fear is not being able to watch my kids grow up.
I’m a bit afraid of the ocean…it just seems a bit to endless for me.
I think my biggest fear is letting myself and other down! I hate letting people down and I am such a people pleaser, this is something I am working on letting go!
#1 is why I’m not sure that I want to have children ever! It isn’t the pain or the stretch marks. It’s the lifetime afterwards. They are such an enormous responsibility — you have to take care of and emotionally support a developing human being for years! It’s a whole separate person with wants and needs and dreams that you have to support, nurture, and guide. The concept terrifies me.
Mice! – I think mice are absolutely scary. As much as I fly, I’m also a bit afraid of flying, especially when there are world issues.
I am terrified of birds. I hate the noise it makes when their wings flap…completely freaks me out. 🙂
I totally understand the baby thing. It’ll be three years we’ve been married this October and the baby time is nearing. I was always scared of all of it. I wanted babies but the whole thing just seemed painful, scary, and then I have a human I could possibly screw up lol. As a Christian, I’ve really talked it out with God quite a bit lately. I honestly feel like God is morphing me into the mother I will be one day. i know that sounds strange but it’s the best way I can think to describe it. I’m sure you’ll be a great mom because you care so much.
I’m with Logan- my anxiety makes my small fears turn into huge ones that are often irrational, such as thinking something will happen to my boyfriend or family as soon as they’re out of my sight, the ocean (this is a HUGEEE one and has been my biggest fear ever since I was little, even before my anxiety) and I also have a big fear of not being in control (like in the way of if I ever had my drink drugged or if I went on a medication that made me loopy). I’m a big scaredy cat haha!
i think the mother thing is normal, for me the thing that scares me is being a mom with my health issues. i so want to be able to be the main carer-for the little one and if my health doesn’t change and a baby comes? i won’t be able to. other things i’m afraid of? large fowl (ducks, geese, roosters, etc.), spiders (no matter the size) and not finding a bathroom when i need one (only sort of kidding on that one!)
You’re totally over thinking becoming a mom! There’s no right or wrong way to raise a child, and your natural instincts kick in.
That is, unless you feed your baby a pop tart. THAT is totally wrong! 😉
Oh my goodness the very idea of being a mother is scary! We think we know a lot about children from interacting with other people’s children, but truly, what do we know? Then again, women have certain maternal instincts that are so deeply ingrained in our biological makeup that it is sure to feel more natural once we’re actually holding a baby in our arms, so don’t worry! I’m sure you’ll be great as a mum. Enjoy your honeymoon!!
I was afraid to be a mom before I was one – it just grows on you. Once you hold that baby – you’re all set 🙂
I’m with you on the bug thing. When you become a mom you will still be afraid of making mistakes, we all do, but if you love and care for your child then it will all be fine. Making mistakes, for the most part are temporary and don’t cause your child much harm. They will make mistakes in their lives as well.
I’m afraid of my baby brother dying. I can barely type it because it horrifies me so much. And it’s very irrational of me to worry about, but I worry about it on a pretty regular basis.
Ohhhhhh sweet Neely, becoming a mother is the most terrifying, exhausting, wonderful thing in the world! When the time is right, you will have a precious little one and suddenly you will realize just how deep and wide love really is and you’ll understand the meaning of unconditional. It’s pure bliss. In the meantime, you can borrow Kamden and enjoy all of his rolls and chins and awesomeness. HA!!!!
I’m a swimming pool kinda gal! Give me a Marriot! haha. I can’t handle any kind of water that could have things living in it!
I cannot wait to be a mother as well. But I am nervous as all heck for it.
When people are afraid of failing at something they really want to strive for excellence in, it just means they’re willing to constantly progress. When you become too confident you stop learning. Parenting is a total learning process for me and it’s absolutely amazing.
Do not listen to these moms who complain so much when the time is right for you to be a mommy. I sincerely love being a mom and love not only being a mentor and role model for my kids, but being a student to them and the way they perceive the world. ^_^ Oh.. and I also EFFING hate bugs. *cries*
I <3 these. And you! One fear I have? Not making enough of a difference in people's lives. Not seizing the moment enough. Not living life to the fullest. But then, sometimes I have to stop and remind myself that maybe at times I get caught up in "more" seeming like where the best thing is, when less sometimes is where the sweetness is at. A simple moment. Sometimes that's what matters more than the "big".
From the time that I was little, I had always wanted to be a mother, and the fear didn’t sink in until NOW (my son is almost 3!) and I always feel like I hope I am being all that I should be. But, guess what? There’s no manual, and there’s no right or wrong. You will do what feels and seems right when it does happen! Have faith! <3
Oh man. I can agree with all of yours. I’d absolutely afraid to be a mother one day. The ocean is super scary and huge and dangerous. And bugs are just gross, and some are scary. Other than that, I’m just super afraid of failure.
I’m also totally terrified of raising little humans! I think it’s normal haha
I’m terrified of spiders and seagulls! I’m also terrified of being a mum. Not for the bringing up the human part, but the giving birth part. I’m really tiny, so the thought of having something that’s growing inside me and has to come out at some point is horrifying!
Katie <3
I have a weird fear of heights and roller coasters. It has not always been there. In fact, I have been sky diving before. But, I get the weeby jeebies when I am on a tall building and walk close to the edge. I have to do it verrrrryyyyy slowly.
I HATE bugs! And I unfortunately live in the worse state for bugs, Florida. So my constant interaction with them is just horrible.
Open water scares me!! I like going to the beach but I never get in the water! Even pools sometimes can scare me. I sometimes have nightmares which involve water :/ Oh and really bad thunderstorms scare me!
Thanks for creating a forum to discuss fears, and listing your own – that’s not easy! I think the concern about mothering is one that any person considering becoming a mother has… the responsibility of the well-being and development of a dependent human being seems pretty daunting to me as well.
My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for 1.5 yrs (and are getting older than we’d like to be for a first child), so we’ll be stepping up our tactics soon. I’m scared of the possibility that those may not work, and what the emotional impact of that may be. One step at a time…
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I have the whole terrified of water thing too. I go crazy just crossing long bridges and bugs are horrible lol.
I am a Pisces and deep down possibly a mermaid, but I CANNOT do lakes at all. I cannot stand the squishy bottom and the fact I cannot see the bottom. It totally freaks me out. I will avoid touching the bottom at all costs. 😉
Regarding being a mom, it truly is terrifying but it’s true that a lot of it is intuitive. You love those babies so much that parts of it come naturally. It’s still the hardest job on Earth but also the most rewarding in my opinion
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Girl, I don’t do open water either. Being a mom is so scary, but you figure it out eventually. 🙂
I love the idea behind this post, I might have to borrow it if you don’t mind. Spiders scare me but grasshoppers terrify me… I swear they are going to jump in my hair or on my face… they give me the creeps and I’ll scream when I see one jump.
Pregnancy scares me to death. Which, is awesome birth control in itself.
I’m totally terrified of water like that too, like something is going to come get me. Oddly enough though, I want to go to space SO badly.
You’d love Lake Tahoe. The water is so clear in the summer. I really hate murky water too.
i’m with you on the open water thing! except i have to say that open ocean water scares the living daylights out of me…like for example, being on a boat that sinks or the movie “open water”….um yeah, no thanks!
Raising a human is totally scary. The good news and the bad news is there is no guide book. We all just do the best we can. 🙂
Bugs… I HATE them. Ugh!