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Dealing With Toddler Tantrums

So, moms I’m sure you’ve been there. When your kid was “THAT KID” you know the one. The one screaming in the grocery store because you looked at him funny or threw a fit because you dare to put his shoes on. Well we are now in the world of toddler tantrums and dealing with toddler tantrums. I am no expert but these are the things we have done to deal with them.

Dealing With Toddler Tantrums

Drive Through/Drive Up Pick Up: If I have an errand that involves a drive thru or drive up and pickup I do it. Banks, Coffee runs, Pharmacy and my personal favorite, the Walmart Online Grocery Pick Up. Thank you Walmart for being amazing, seriously. Liam is teething and testing his limits lately, which is totally normal at one year old. But here’s the thing: We needed formula (he hasn’t switched yet), we needed a few groceries and I was NOT about to take my already moody kid inside Walmart on a super cold and windy day. Also, flu season. So, I ordered my groceries online (use code WOWFRESH to get $10 off your first order) and I got a text when they were ready. We pulled up to the pickup area and they loaded my groceries in and boom grocery trip done and toddler tantrum averted. So I didn’t have to deal with him being THAT KID and my sanity was saved. So wins for everyone. If you think I will ever NOT be using Walmart Online Grocery Pick Up you would be wrong. This is now the way we shop!

Count to 10: I am TRYING to teach Liam to know what this means. So if he starts to throw a tantrum I say “OK mom is counting to ten the we are going to be happy.” I count and sometimes he stops sometimes he doesn’t but he’s still a baby so consistency is key here.

I don’t give in: If he is throwing a tantrum I do NOT give in to what he is wanting. Especially if it’s silly like he doesn’t want me to put his shoes or shirt on. Or he doesn’t want his face wiped or diaper changed. Sorry kiddo we have to do those things.

These are the three things we are doing dealing with toddler tantrums and I have to say I feel like they really help. We don’t have a ton of tantrums, but I know as he gets further into toddler-hood we will see more.

What do you do to deal with toddler tantrums?

This is a sponsored conversation written by me on behalf of Walmart. The opinions and text are all mine.

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  1. I can’t imagine having to deal with toddler tantrums! I always feel for the mothers who do, and face eye rolls from other people. Your tips are great! 🙂

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  2. Gina wrote:

    My daughter is an adult now. I think I have selective parenting amnesia. I don’t remember her toddler temper tantrums. I remember vividly, however, her teenage and young adult ones (She’s only 22 and still has them)

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  3. Margaret wrote:

    I am dealing with the temper tantrums and my son is just about to turn 2. I’ve resorted to bringing along a bottle of milk and his favourite toy of the moment to distract him when we’re in public. Also giving him something to do while we’re out in a store (e.g. hold this for mommy please) goes a long way. But like you, I’m resorting to drive thru options as much as possible. Not only to keep him from making a spectacle of us in a store, but also to limit taking him in and out of a car seat (which can be a chore in itself).

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  4. Wendy wrote:

    When I was sick and my kids of course still really needed me. I used an online grocery service and it really saved the day! The tantrums thankfully we dealt with well and they’re now nice young adults who are polite and respectful. At the time I was worried lol!

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  5. Nancy L. wrote:

    Great suggestions! For the life of me, I don’t know why my children didn’t have tantrums when they were younger. My daughter was always an angel, but my son, oy, he would run off if he wasn’t belted in the cart. I think the ‘count to 10’ approach would have been a good strategy if he got away. The grocery pick-up service is THE BEST and I LOVE IT. I can’t even imagine how wonderful it is for moms and dads with toddlers.

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  6. Trish wrote:

    When I taught preschool we did the count to 10 and it was usually very effective. I also found distracting the children with something like a song or a game was pretty effective too.

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  7. Meg wrote:

    Oh tantrums! I agree with you that not giving in is key! Also, with little ones, the power of distracting is real. My mom taught me that when your toddler is starting to melt down, try saying “Hey, did you hear that?” It will often grab their attention and get them to stop and listen for a second. Then you can follow up with, “I think I heard a bird” and go look out the window for one together… Or a car, helicopter, music, whatever works. You just have to stop the momentum of the tantrum and redirect. Good luck!

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  8. The grocery pickup saves my life every week. Toddler tantrums are legit over here, but being my 3rd child, I know it’s just a phase.

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  9. Alicia wrote:

    I have 4 kids and our older 2 had it off and on til around 3 1/2 or 4. Our toddler is 2 1/2 and just starting to off and on have tantrums. I tell him we don’t act like that and he needs to be nice. I think he’s somewhat jealous still about youngest – she is 10 1/2 months but I am not sure why since they play well together most of the time, but sometimes he will push her and I’ll have him sit down for a minute or two with us.

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  10. Patty Hancock wrote:

    My son is 25 now. I noticed when he was a toddler that most of the time his tantrums were when he was either bored or tired. Some were a result of him being an only child and spoiled. I use to look my son right in the eyes and tell him that his behavior was unacceptable and that I was very disappointed in him and he made me very sad. That use to make him calm down.

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  11. My toddler has been the worst this week! i’m always looking for ways to improve his crazy. Lately I’ve changed the time out spot and am ignoring him which has helped. I’ll try tip #2 next time.

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  12. Darby wrote:

    Walk away 🙂 I do not entertain those so I just walk away…..though I have been known to mirror them just to show them how ridiculous it is to fall on the floor and flail around over the yellow crayon 😉

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  13. I think being consistent is a big one. Kids know after awhile if you’re going to do what you say or not.

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  14. Jessy wrote:

    Love that grocery stores are now doing this pick-up service! It’s soooo convenient!!

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  15. Scott wrote:

    We used to just ignore them. Once we made sure it was a tantrum and not an emergency, we just let them fuss it out. Soon they learned it would do no good to throw one.

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  16. Having an order and pickup service is so great!!!! Helps so much. But yes, love these tips for tantrum help too!

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  17. Krystin wrote:

    Love grocery stores with pick-up services, soooo convenient and I love that you get just as much selection!

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  18. Rosey wrote:

    I had four kids and three didn’t throw tantrums (so nice, lol, though one gave me teen problems, but that’s a story for another day). My daughter, however did, and I’d never give in, just like you said. Her tantrum phase was relatively short, but it I still remember it many years later. 😉

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  19. Crystal wrote:

    One strategy that worked well with my youngest is asking her to evaluate how big of a deal the problem is. When she starts throwing a tantrum, I ask her if it’s a big deal or a little deal.

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  20. Annemarie LeBlanc wrote:

    A grocery pick-up service is a great idea. I would not want to go grocery shopping with a cranky toddler. When my kids were young, they did not really have major tantrums. Maybe just a few every now and then. How did we deal with it? We totally ignored them. The whining and crying was really annoying but once they learned that throwing a tantrum will not let them have their way, they stopped.

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  21. If I can avoid taking my kids to the store with me, I do. The last time I took my daughter to the mall she was tired (my mistake) and she ended up losing her mind at the check out lol Big tears and everything. I just tried to breathe in and pretend I didn’t know her hahaha Soon as I took her out of her stroller and let her walk a bit she was okay. Like nothing happened. I love using Walmart pick up service and also their two-days delivery.

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