I turn 38 this weekend and honestly that sounds insane to me. I started this blog when I was 25 and here I am nearing 40. As I embark on 38 I think back to myself at 28. Early in 28 was one of the hardest and worst times of my life and by the end of 28, Andrew and I had been dating for 4 months. A lot can happen in one year and certainly in 10 years. I wanted to share 10 things I would tell myself at 28 years old mostly for me but some of you may find this fun too!
10 Things I Would Tell Myself At 28 Years Old
This year will be tough but you’re tougher: The year I turned 28 was hands down one of the hardest years. My dad was diagnosed with cancer a few months before my birthday and that summer he almost died. He ended up recovering, by a miracle and a stem cell transplant. I got out of a relationship that was NEVER going to work and ended up meeting Andrew. Obviously, that turned out well since 10 years later we have been married almost 8 years.
The nice guys are DEFINITELY worth your time: I think a lot of women have to date the asshole before you marry the nice guy. Sure some marry the asshole and some get it right with the nice guy from the get-go but that wasn’t my experience. I dated A LOT of jerks. But, then I gave the nice guy a chance and he turned out to be the love of my life.
Take the trips: Andrew and I always say we wish we had traveled more those first few years before we had kids. TAKE THE TRIPS! Even the small ones.
Don’t worry about other people’s timelines: I wish when kids were little we constantly weren’t always trying to put them on a timeline that everyone else is on. It’s ok to do everything when you are ready. Marriage, kids, etc. It can all wait.
If it won’t matter in 5 years don’t waste more than 5 minutes being upset: I tend to dwell on things at least internally. If something won’t really matter in 5 years it’s pretty pointless to spend more than 5 minutes being upset.
Stand your ground and stand up for what you believe in: It’s Ok if it makes me mad or uncomfortable. Just keep standing up for what you believe in. Teach your kids to do the same.
No one has any idea what they are doing when it comes to parenting: It’s OK if you feel like you have no idea what you are doing with your kids, no one does. We are all pretty much winging it.
Spend as much time with your grandparents as you can: At 28 I still had 9 more years with them but I wish I had more. I did spend a lot of time with them but I wish I had spent even more.
Some people are in your life for a reason or a season, not for life: Not everyone who’s in your life at 28 will be when you are 38 and that’s OK. Everyone in your life is there for a reason and to teach you something. Even if it isn’t forever.
Enjoy the ride: It’s all going to be fine. The ups will be great, the downs will be tough but you with weather every storm and be totally fine. Enjoy it.
What would you tell yourself at 28 years old?