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At 30 I Have Learned

I turned 30 in April and I thought that at 30 I would feel different and I do. I feel like I am much more secure in my decisions and my standpoints.

I wanted to share a few of those today.

At 30 I have Learned …

To trust my instincts. They are usually right about people, situations etc.

To say No more. I do not always have to say Yes to happy hours, dinners, etc. I need to put myself first sometimes.

That going to sleep at 9 PM is OK. Listen to my body and when it’s tired it will let me know.

Saving money is more important than that handbag I am lusting after. We want to go on trips, buy a house etc. The purse can wait.

Having a hand full of great friends I can count on is better than ones I can’t. Cutting certain people out of my life the past year was a great decision. There is a reason I was wary of them see number 1.

No one is perfect but two people can be perfect together.

Staying positive works. It’s really easier said than done and getting bogged down int he negative is so much easier than staying positive but it is so important to stay positive!

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Work hard or hardly work but either way you get in what you put out. I work my butt off at my business and my blog and thats why they grow. There is no magic formula. It’s work.

Travel as much as possible. I honestly take every single opportunity I can to get out and see things and do things because I will never get this time back.

Family, close friends, my fiancee I care what they think. Not anyone else.

 

At your age you are at right now what is the one single most important thing you’ve learned? 

 

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  1. Sara wrote:

    That people who burn you once WILL burn you again.

    That you can’t rehab a bad employee

    That paying people more money doesn’t increase loyalty.

    That life is usually, for all intents and purposes, pretty good

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  2. Alli wrote:

    I agree with everything you’ve learned because I’ve learned them all, too. One of the things I’ve learned is that friends will come and go, but family is forever.

    The most important thing: I will always reap what I sow, so I always try to sow good things!

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  3. These are all great lessons. I’m bad at saving. I don’t really spend on material things but on things that will create memories. I still need to cut back on that though so I can save up for bigger things…and ya know…bills.

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  4. Lilly @ Lobster for Breakfast wrote:

    I love your list!

    My biggest thing I’ve learned is to put myself first and to stop feeling like I need to please everyone in the world. If I try, I’ll just end up exhausting myself and not be able to please anyone, not even myself.

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  5. Shambray wrote:

    I just turned 29, but I already agree with so many of these things. It makes life easier (in my opinion) to realize these things.

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  6. Logan Can wrote:

    I’m still learning to say no. Love this post!

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  7. Trish wrote:

    I love this list! You have some important truths here. Trusting my instincts is a big one with me — I have learned over time how important that is.

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  8. Brenda wrote:

    I’m almost 30, and I think the most important thing I’ve learned so far is to aim high and do things even if they scare you.

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  9. Heather wrote:

    Great list! I am turning 35 in January so it’s nice to be able to look back and see what life lessons you have learned to share with others

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  10. Emily B. wrote:

    I couldn’t agree more with your list. I’ve definitely been trying to travel as much as possible while i can.

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  11. Jamie G wrote:

    These are some great points, I think the best point I learned after turning 30 echos your last point: you weed out the people who judge you, make you feel bad or don’t add anything positive to your life. this leaves you with the good, quality, meaningful relationships. those are the people you can listen to and trust, and who will always guide you and keep your best interests top of mind!

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  12. Colleen wrote:

    I’ve learned that I am the only who can make decisions for me, I used to hate making decisions and would allow everyone else’s opinion to make decisions for me! I’m in a much healthier place now because I discovered that! Thanks for sharing your heart!

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  13. Beth wrote:

    I love what you said about saying No more! I am going to read a book called The Best Yes that is all about that. Sometimes we have to say no to good things so we can do great things 🙂

    xoxo

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  14. Elizabeth wrote:

    Great post! I agree with everything you wrote!

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  15. Sara wrote:

    Completely agree with all of those! I also feel like I’ve learned that there comes a point when you can’t just let things go, if someone is doing something, saying something or acting a certain way towards you or your family, there is only so much you should have to brush off. I’ve been learning this over the past couple years and have been so much happier since! Great post!!! Happy Thursday!

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  16. Nancy wrote:

    Isn’t it good to feel wiser? Listening to your body, and instincts. While I still struggle to say no to some people, it’s a learning process.

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  17. I agree on so many! Totally felt empowered when I turned 30 and the best is yet to come! XO

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  18. Lindsay wrote:

    I love this so much! I would have to agree with anything that you have said but the “No one is perfect but two people can be perfect together” is something that I have learned big time. After living with my boyfriend for 2 years it has taught me that we are both not perfect and have flaws but that’s what makes us perfect together.

    That quote: always believe something great is about to happen is one of my favorites!!

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  19. Love this so much! Thanks for these tidbits! I will take them with me today!

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  20. Chelsea wrote:

    Love all of these. A lot of them are things I am learning as I get closer to my mid-twenties. ESPECIALLY the one about saving… I wish I could get my boyfriend into the same mindset I have about money right now!

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  21. brita wrote:

    At 27, I feel like I’ve learned a lot of similar things. At the very top of the list would have to be “stop caring SO much what others think about me”. The older I get, the more and more comfortable I become with who I am. I only wish I could give this same confidence to my 16 year old self.

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  22. Funny! I did a post very similar to this when I turned 30 in June… amazing the similarities! Guess that means they are important lessons we have learned!

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  23. Dee wrote:

    Awesome! 30 is a great age and if we aren’t living and learning, then what is the point. LOL
    Love this post!

    Have a great week!
    Dee from http://www.thecsiproject.com

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  24. tianna wrote:

    I’m only 25, but definitely can relate to a lot of what you said and learn as well! Thanks for sharing this 🙂

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  25. Michelle wrote:

    My single most important thing is, if it makes you miserable, scrap it. Person, place, job, situation–life is too short to be miserable when you don’t have to be. 🙂

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  26. Karissa wrote:

    I’m about to turn 30 and I agree with so many of these. I’m better for them.

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  27. JoAnn wrote:

    The saying “no” more is something I really need to work on. I feel like I am getting better at it with age though. Also, I’ve become a lot less shy than I used to be in my twenties.

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  28. Tiffany wrote:

    That who I am is enough. If it isn’t perhaps that person who thinks that isn’t meant to be in my life. I’m finally okay with that. At 36 I no longer strive to please and appease others…I make me happy…finally.

    Great post!

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  29. Stefany wrote:

    Saying no. There have been so many times I have overwhelmed myself with too many commitments. It is time that I say NO to more people.

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  30. AdeDoyin wrote:

    Great lessons!

    I’m 26 and getting pretty good at saying no.

    But I have to work on not wanting that purse as much. :-/

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  31. Rebekah wrote:

    31 now and the most important thing I have learned is I can’t please everyone, and trying to is exhausting and just leaves me stressed out.

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  32. i think i started treating time more preciously when i turned 30.. while in my 20s i thought i had all the time in teh world.

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  33. Alexandra wrote:

    I am only starting out in my twenties (turning 22) but I can relate to a lot of what you say 🙂 I am so curious sometimes about how I will change in my 30s, 40s, and so on that I can’t wait. The journey is so much fun and learning things along the way is a wonderful experience!

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  34. This is a fantastic list. I definitely need to remember that I don’t always have to do things just because I am invited.

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  35. I think the things we want never really change, just develop! I know all I want to do with life is see the world, cultures, people, food – just experience it all! There are so many things I want to achieve before I’m 30, time goes way too fast!

    Katie <3

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  36. It’s great that you are comfortable with yourself at 30. I know my sister-in-law turned 30 this year and was dreading it. I feel that you are only as old as you make yourself be!

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  37. Isn’t 30 funny? I was totally dreading it until it came and felt like a cloud lift, or something. I love being in my 30s. I like to think my 20s were for figuring it out and 30s are for enjoying life and being who I want to be.

    Great lessons! I really like this list:) You have inspired to make one of my own now;)

    Cheers,
    Alyson

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  38. I love your list!! What I had learned by 30 was to stand firm in what I believe and not the “crowd” influence my decisions.

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  39. YES, to trusting your instincts. I am not quite 30 but it has been one of the biggest things I have learned.

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  40. jessica wrote:

    I’m turning 30 in March, and I really like your view on how you are solid in your standpoints. One thing I could really use some confidence with is to trust my instincts. Especially with people. I trust too easily.

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  41. I think the most important thing I’ve learned now is to put my happiness above others. I don’t mean it in a selfish way but too often we do things that we don’t want to or don’t make us happy because we think it might please someone else. I’ve stopped putting into one-sided relationships, found more like-minded friends, and taken more time for me.

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  42. myrabev wrote:

    Those are very good points, I too believe saving is more important than my next handbag and i am secure in my decisions.

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  43. Megan wrote:

    “To trust my instincts. They are usually right about people, situations etc.” AMEN! I always trust my instincts! Also, I totally agree that I would rather have a few close friends than a million “friends”. Great post lady:)

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  44. ananda wrote:

    great points neely!

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  45. I’m closing in on 40 in just couple of years. And I must say that age does not come alone. I’ve learnt that it really is OK to put yourself ahead of everyone else time to time, and feel good about it. And that family does come before anything else.

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  46. Nodding my head in agreement with all of these! I have learned to be so much more confident and in control since I turned 30!

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  47. Jess wrote:

    I’m still learning a lot of these, especially the bit where it’s okay to say no. I’ve been practicing more and more but it makes me feel guilty when I’ve gone too long without seeing anyone or helping anyone out! Good for you to have learned so much!

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  48. At 34, I have learned that forgiveness is truly the key to happiness. Holding grudges can really detract from your life and really is not beneficial to you growing as a person. Live and let live!

    Thrifting Diva
    http://www.thriftingdiva.com

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