Balance, the thing we all struggle with. Even those of us who love to think we have it all together. We always feel like somewhere we are failing. We either do awesome at work and don’t have enough time at home, or you do awesome at home but your work struggles. You can keep the house clean, but you forget to defrost the chicken. Somewhere we struggle. Today I am sharing 7 ways to find balance. Or at least make yourself think you are finding balance. Fake it till you make it right?
7 Ways To Find Balance
Stick to a schedule (when you can): Having a schedule is great for me. I am such a type A planner that I have to schedule my days out. The great thing is with having a solid schedule my kid naps exactly when he should. He also sleeps at night at the same time! This gives my husband and I together time to eat dinner, watch a TV show, talk, even just clean the kitchen!
Carve out time for you: I know for me personally I feel the most stressed when I realize I haven’t had so much as 5 minutes to myself. There are days where even taking a shower feels rushed because I know Liam will be up from his nap any minute. You have to find time for yourself. Even 15 minutes to do a face mask or read a book.
Turn off screens: My husband and I are so guilty of getting in bed and turning on the TV and sitting on our phones. Why? Because that’s the age we live in. Sometimes you need to just have no screen nights. Turn off the TV and play a game, talk to each other, do a puzzle, even read! Put the phones in another room, or on your nightstand.
Have a planned date night: It took us 14 weeks after having Liam to have our first post baby date. We couldn’t believe how weird it felt to be together without him. One of us is usually with him! We ran some errands and went to lunch and it was wonderful! We are working on having 2 planned date nights a month because that time together gives us such balance as parents. It makes us better parents.
Budget for a babysitter: On that note if you need a date night away from the kids, you have to budget for babysitting. While both my parents live in Dallas, they have jobs and lives and aren’t always free to babysit. Thankfully we have an arsenal of sitters ready to hang with our little dude. We work babysitting into our monthly budget because some months it’s far more important than buying new clothes or going to a fancy restaurant.
Ask for help when you need it: We are hardwired to want to do everything, but it’s just not realistic. You have to ask for help. Ask your parents to give you a date night, ask your husband to let you have a day to yourself, ask a friend to help, just ask for help. I know it’s hard sometimes but we all need it!
Give yourself grace: At the end of the day remember that we can only try our best. Every day is a new chance to get it right and no one is perfect.
I hope you found my 7 ways to find balance helpful. I would love to know what you would add to this list!