Even before I had Liam I had a long history of anxiety. Going back to high school at least that’s when I can really remember it, but the more I think about it I was showing signs as young as second grade. My anxiety manifests itself in a lot of ways, but mostly I feel really out of control of my body and I have a hard time breathing. Once I had Liam my anxiety hit a high point. I was terrified to leave the house alone with him for weeks and would wake up at all hours of the night to make sure he was still breathing. Sure a lot of that is normal for first time moms but mine went a lot deeper. I have it mostly under control now so I wanted to share how I deal with anxiety for those of you who may experience similar things. Obviously I am not any kind of medical professional so please seek help if you are feeling anxious.
How I Deal With Anxiety
Talk about it: I think this is pretty obvious, but talking about what’s making you anxious is key. I talk to my mom, Andrew, my Dr, and a few friends who I’ve opened up to about it. I think even just saying what’s making you anxious out loud can help SO much!
Medication: Yes I know some people don’t want to go down this path but it’s what works for me. I have a Dr who has prescribed me certain medications and they really help. I did not take them while pregnant and I felt totally fine. I hope at some point to not need them but right now I do so I use modern medicine.
Meditation: This has been a game changer for me. As I have mentioned many times I use headspace and meditating first thing in the morning has really helped my anxiety throughout the day. I feel like when I start my day with the right mindset I don’t get as many anxious moments throughout the day.
Exercise: Any kind of exercise from walking, to yoga, barre classes, or just weight lifting really calms me. If I am having a rough morning, going to the gym always makes it better. Or Liam and I will head out for a long walk and just listening to him point out everything he see’s or talking to him about what we are doing, playing at the park along the way etc. I always feel so good after! I can just feel my anxiety lifting.
Acknowledge it: Admit it, it’s totally fine. More people than you probably think suffer from it and it’s a normal thing. Talk to people about it, open up, see a doctor, tell your friends. Get the support you need. That’s what I did and it’s the first step in how I deal with anxiety. I acknowledge that it’s there and try not to let it have more power than it deserves.
If you suffer I really encourage you to talk to someone. Don’t ever feel ashamed or embarrassed or less than. Anxiety is very common and it’s absolutely normal.