I am in my second trimester for my second pregnancy, and while so much feels familiar, this pregnancy has been COMPLETELY different than my first. Part of that is chasing a toddler around and part is just different baby different feelings. I feel as a first time mom I was filled with so much anxiety and felt like I had no idea what I was doing. I know a lot of moms feel that way. Today I want to share 5 things I would tell myself as a new mom if I could go back.
5 Things I Would Tell Myself As A New Mom
No one has any idea what they are doing: I feel like as a new mom I had this misunderstanding that everyone else knew what the heck to do. I did not. Everything was trial and error. But every first time mom feels that way. We are sent home with these tiny humans who depend on us for everything and mostly we are all just winging it.
The baby will be fine for 2 minutes: My mom would come by periodically when I first got home from the hospital and I would run to pee or shower. As if I could not do those things if someone wasn’t home. Even if Liam was asleep. It took me a bit to realize if he was sleeping safely in his crib I could shower.
Take more time for yourself: Even if it’s to go for a walk alone when your husband comes home from work just do something for yourself. New moms put SO MUCH PRESSURE on themselves to be go go go and do do do but sometimes you need to go and do for you.
Your husband is there too: He can help! He can change the diapers, and feed the baby, and do the laundry, and make the dinner. You don’t have to do it all! Let people help you and delegate. If you need a break speak up. If you need a nap speak up!
Get out more: This is something I wish we had done with Liam and just that I had done. I had such paralyzing PPA (postpartum anxiety) that the idea of leaving the house terrified me. I was fine on a walk around the neighborhood but for some reason driving somewhere scared me. I wish we had taken Liam out to dinner more or traveled more because let me tell you those things are MUCH easier with a newborn than a toddler. I also wish for that reason I had just taken Liam to the mall, or Target, or anywhere more.
If you are a first time mom or even a second or third time mom just remember we all have no idea what we are doing. We are all doing our best to raise these tiny people and keep them alive. Give yourself some grace. I sure wish I had.
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What would you tell yourself as a new mom?