In a few weeks Andrew and I will be celebrating our first year of marriage. Everyone said I would learn a lot this first year of marriage. They all said “just wait.” We heard “the first year of marriage is the toughest.” What they didn’t tell me was how much Andrew would teach me about myself, about love, and about marriage. Today I want to share what my husband taught me in year 1 of our marriage.
Experiences are better than things: Andrew loves to experience things. Trips, cooking classes, events etc. He would much rather have an experience than a material item. He has really slowly moved me in this direction. For our one year anniversary we both are gifting each other with experiences as well as taking a trip together. The memories last a lot longer than any thing he could buy me.
It’s OK to ask for help: Andrew has always offered to help me with anything from blogging photos and html coding to putting away laundry or vacuuming the house. I am the kind of person that always wants to do things myself. I don’t want anyones help. In the past year I have really learned to lean on him. If I need help I ask for it. No matter what he is always willing to help anyone.
Laugh more: I can be way too serious and way too emotional. I can lose my temper and lose my cool too much. Andrew is the most even tempered and calm person I have ever known. Sometimes I look at him and I am in awe of how lucky I am to be married to him. I can’t help but smile and let whatever stupid thing that was upsetting me fade away. He has taught me to smile and laugh more and to sweat the small stuff less.
Relax: It’s OK to not clean the kitchen right after dinner. It’s OK to have laundry in the dryer and not immediately jump up to fold it and put it away. Sometimes it’s OK to just lay on the couch with my husband and laugh at How I met Your Mother and not worry about what needs to get done.
Of course he has taught me more than just those things but these are a few of the things I wanted to highlight. I want to be able to look back on this post as the years go on and see what I can add to them by the things he constantly teaches me. I am beyond blessed to have the husband I do and I hope we continue to learn from each other.
Congrats on one year of marriage! I love that you add that it’s okay to relax if dinner isn’t cleaned up right after dinner or if laundry isn’t immediately done. This is TOTALLY me. I get anxiety over the littlest things.
These are awesome life lessons! To learn them your first year of marriage puts you way ahead of many! I especially love #1. We’ve stopped giving each other things. Usually they were things we didn’t need or sometimes even want. We’d much rather spend money on time together doing something! Great post! Thanks!
Happy Anniversary to you! What great lessons you’ve been able to learn with your hubby this year. Here’s to many more years and many more lessons in growing!
I love this! Congratulations on one year of marriage! My husband and I have only been married 4 months, but he is constantly teaching me to laugh more and relax more 🙂
Such a sweet post. Congrats on your year anniversary! What date is it? Our 7th year anniversary is coming up on October 3rd, which is also my parent’s 44th. 🙂
Awww this is such a cute list!! My husband and I BOTH have the anxiety, get-things-done-right-away mentality haha, which is both good and bad. We’re really productive, but I’ll admit we could both take a chill pill every now and then!
Great advice, appreciate it!! And congratulations on one year of marriage!!!
Congrats on one year of marriage! I love that you add that it’s okay to relax if dinner isn’t cleaned up right after dinner or if laundry isn’t immediately done. This is TOTALLY me. I get anxiety over the littlest things.
#3 and #4 are things that my husband is always trying to teach me and I’m slowly learning 😉
Congrats on a year of marriage! Such wonderful words of wisdom….thanks for sharing!
These are awesome life lessons! To learn them your first year of marriage puts you way ahead of many! I especially love #1. We’ve stopped giving each other things. Usually they were things we didn’t need or sometimes even want. We’d much rather spend money on time together doing something! Great post! Thanks!
Happy Anniversary to you both! What a great list of lessons 🙂 cheers to many more years ♥
#3 all day long! It’s a lovely list and such a nice tribute to your husband.
Happy Anniversary to you! What great lessons you’ve been able to learn with your hubby this year. Here’s to many more years and many more lessons in growing!
Congratulations!!
I’ll have to share this post with my newly wed friends!
Congratulations!!!! Thank you for sharing. Four excellent reminders to live by.
This is such a beautiful post of how you two have continued to grow together. I hope he gets a chance to read this 🙂
I love this! Congratulations on one year of marriage! My husband and I have only been married 4 months, but he is constantly teaching me to laugh more and relax more 🙂
Such a sweet post. Congrats on your year anniversary! What date is it? Our 7th year anniversary is coming up on October 3rd, which is also my parent’s 44th. 🙂
I can so identify with 3 and 4. And truthfully, it’s been 8 years for us and he would say he has to teach those things to me again and again.
Congratulations! The first year down, a lifetime to go.
I couldn’t agree more with your #4, I think that’s what I’ve been having difficulty grasping in my short 2 years as well.
Every effort counts, I’m better some days than others but I try.
Awww this is such a cute list!! My husband and I BOTH have the anxiety, get-things-done-right-away mentality haha, which is both good and bad. We’re really productive, but I’ll admit we could both take a chill pill every now and then!
Great advice, appreciate it!! And congratulations on one year of marriage!!!
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What awesome lessons! So happy for you two. 🙂
xo, Caitlin
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