It’s crazy to think this is my 8th month of this monthly wellness series. This month I am focusing on self-love which is a part of wellness that I think we overlook. Loving ourselves is so important and honestly something I struggle with at times. I am not the most confident person (even though I give off that vibe). So this month I am really challenging myself right along with you!
Monthly Wellness Series Month Eight: Self-Love
Why I think it’s important:
I feel like women are so critical of themselves. It starts so young and even younger now with social media. We look through magazines, see women in movies and on TV and start giving ourselves these unrealistic expectations of how we should look, feel, act, think, etc. Then when we don’t look or think or act or feel that way the self love starts to diminish. We think we aren’t worthy enough, pretty enough, smart enough, funny enough, and so on. Now that I have a daughter I am so careful with how I speak about myself in front of her as I do not want her having negative thoughts about herself. I want her to grow up and love herself. So then I think to myself, if it’s so important to me that she loves herself, why do I not love myself enough?
What I do:
Honestly, not enough! This is the biggest struggle for me. I doubt myself constantly: my choices, my decisions, my feelings, my abilities. I feel a strong sense of imposter syndrome at times, and I give myself a lot of negative self-talk. But one thing that has helped is like I mentioned above, I do not do these things in front of my kids. I want to raise confident children who are kind to themselves and others. So the less I talk badly about myself in front of them the less I do it in general.
This month’s challenge:
I have a few things I am going to do this month that I hope you do right along with me. First, make a list of all the things I love about myself in all aspects: physical appearance, abilities, personality, etc. Read that list any time you doubt yourself! Second, write notes to yourself on stickies and put them on your bathroom or bedroom mirror. That way you are seeing these things CONSTANTLY! Third, every day say 5 positive affirmations about yourself right when you wake up and 5 right before you go to bed. I am hoping by doing these things my self-love improves and yours does too!
Do you struggle with self-love? Will you be doing this monthly wellness series challenge with me?
Super helpful article about the benefits of positive self-talk!
Great post. Self-love and self-kindness are so important. We don’t realize the impact of negative self talk has on both mental and physical health. I was reading about how self-compassion is being used in cancer care settings and it is impacting outcomes for cancer treatments. So, it even helps fight cancer. Amazing!
I love this sort of thing I am definitely going to follow
Hard to believe it’s August, right? I like your idea of saying positive affirmations about ourselves daily. That’s such a great start to the day.
I love this series! Self care is something I do all the time and lately I’ve gotten out of my routine which has negatively affected my self love. I’m going to be putting extra thought into my self care this month.
I love the topic! It is such an important part of wellness that people tend to gloss over! looking forward to seeing future posts!
I love that you do monthly challenges! Self-love is so important for thriving in anything you do. Great post!
I doubt myself as well and it doesn’t help me at all. We all need to stop doubting ourselves for sure
Self Love is so important and effective. Love your challenges. I promote Self Love as well and do daily affirmations. When we speak positive daily, it turns our bad into good. Positive will come to us. Love your blog!
As with most women, I do struggle with this sometimes. I don’t say anything, or try to be conscious of what I say, in front of my boys. I know it’s different for boys than girls, but I also want them to grow up confident. I like the idea of saying 5 positives in the morning and evening.
That’s a great idea to give yourself positive affirmations. I could use the uplift! Such a fun idea with the notes.
Self-love is something I also struggle with. I am constantly feeling like I’m never good enough and even when I manage to accomplish something, I’m still suffering from imposter syndrome. This post is a great reminder to really appreciate yourself. Thank you!
What a worthy and great challenge. I love this one for this month because it is so true, women are so critical of themselves. It is hard when we are surrounded by unrealistic expectations of ourselves.
Self-love is very very important! I should take it a lot more seriously and take a better care of myself.
I am joining you in the self-love challenge. I have learned to do little things that I love to brighten my day.